You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
no you're wrongHuffman said:Your post doesn't make you seem any less retarded, so well done.
Did it fit in your head that the above suggestions were for first/second dates with people you hardly even know? Your dates are good for when you're already in a relationship, I give you that, but trying these too early would just scare the girls away. Like cuddling in the dark or inviting her over already.
I agree though that karting is very strange, it's expensive and is only fun in a group anyway!
ewwww i hate jagermiester, and hotel rooms are too gloomy. I prefer my place or his. We have our stuffs, we can share, we can raid his fridge and make crepes. Fall asleep in our bed, It's real and personal, it's not forced, not planned, we can do whatever we want. EVen saying bye and **** off home at any moment.SharinganUser said:A bottle of Jagermiester and a hotel room = great date.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Only a dutch word could describe what I want to do to you...BBbardot said:ewwww i hate jagermiester, and hotel rooms are too gloomy. I prefer my place or his. We have our stuffs, we can share, we can raid his fridge and make crepes. Fall asleep in our bed, It's real and personal, it's not forced, not planned, we can do whatever we want. EVen saying bye and **** off home at any moment.
im aware you were probbably joking but i figured i could answer anyway
you should be lockd upCredos said:Only a dutch word could describe what I want to do to you...
I would seriously "Swaffel" you in the face for a fvcking hour until you sh*t the fvck up... Seriously, why is this AW (just so you understand attention Wh0re) lurking here...
Look at post #4
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That sounds very cool, it needs a lot of planning to make sure it isn't going to freak her out though. If you have time and resources it's a great idea.WhitePimp said:I always wanted to take a girl on a fake crime. I would set it up so it looks like we're doing something highly illegal, get our pheromones and adrenaline pumping, then once the 'crime' is complete, we escape like we're about to get caught or there's people chasing us. Her head/heart will be spinning with so many emotions if played correctly that you're guaranteed to be the most unforgettable date she's ever had.
i went there because i liked him. A lot. Yeah usually you can figure those things pretty fast. And i knew nothing bad could happen to me in a godamn embassy.Htienvu said:BBbardot... Just because you went to someone you just meet's place in your underwear and play "hide n seek" doesn't mean every girl will do the same. Anyways, this thread is just to brainstorm ideas together, there is NO need to flame etc... If you haven't got useful inputs then please do not post.