I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I did that with a girl once. I've been riding since I was 4 but I quit in 8th grade because I never really liked it, though everyone told me I had potential. When I rode with the girl I hadn't ridden a horse in 2 years and I looked like a complete a dumbass cause I had no idea what I was doing. Still fun though. If you do go horseback riding with a girl make sure you've ridden a horse before, its a lot more difficicult then it looks. That should be common sense to everyone though.TWO WORDS>>> HORSEBACK RIDING
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
ya a movie is supposedly used by everyone, but wtf movies are great.Originally posted by bob2007
I'd rather go watch a movie tho, among all those things.
I find bowling extremely boring.
Beach sounds good, but what do you do there all day?
What bout real golf? Although I've never tried play real golf.
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youll rarely find an experienced smoker that isnt totally ****ed up.Originally posted by katoom
Haha ok well I was readin my old posts. Damn that was a long time ago... Did all that **** with my girl, had an awesome time... We went out for a year and a half, but i was gone for a couple weeks wakeboarding, i come back and she was seein some other guy... Hah, you gotta keep up the DJing no matter how long your goin out.
But annnnnnyways I digress.
Just throwin out a couple of my most recent dates and a couple im planning to do this weekend.
Cultural food,
I took a girl to a real japanese sushi bar where they make you take off your shoes n all that stuff. She'd never been to anywhere like that before. Order some stuff like Cali roles that everyone likes, then you have to order something weird. I make her look through the menu and pick the weirdest sounding thing there. Dont forget the Saki though. Makes for an interesting date.
Beach variation
Aight well this is kind of a spin off of the cultural food thing, I dont recommend you do these two with the same girl, or close together. I grabbed some take out sushi, threw a beach towel in the car and took my date down to the beach as the sun was setting. We chilled and ate sushi, I tought her how to use chop sticks, awesome kino in there.
Another Beach date.
Hah ok well this one I just thought up today, was gonna take this girl out to the beach when the tide is out and we go searching for shells, bring a disposable camera and have fun takin pictures of each other doin stupid ****. Drop the camera off at some 1 hour photo place and go grab icecream or walk around and pick em up later and laugh at each others stupidity.
Course all these dates were with differant girls so nothin got played out. Hah what I want is to find a girl that blazes. Dates would be so easy, just get together at night, smoke a joint listen to music and look at the stars. Ahhh my dream girl haha.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
I think concerts are a pretty good idea. The closer you are to the mosh pit, the closer she tends to get to you which means some major kino. Of course, this wouldn't work at like a hip-hop, country, or pop concert. The band would have to be sufficiently hard enought to mosh to.Originally posted by RaMar
hmm im curious if I should take my girl to a concert? Is that good?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.