well after 5.5 days of no contact, i decided to call her and leave a voicemail. It was real short just saying "hey just wanted to see what your work schedule was looking like this week, we need to go get a drink sometime. call me back. bye". I know an easy way to gauge her interest. If she calls back shes interested, if not shes not, next! Ill keep you all updated.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
date goes from horrible to bed in 5 hours, then???
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
MacAvoy
Banned
Good job on the recovery and giving her space. Just don't make the same mistake if she comes back. I think you might have salvaged this one.
so do you guys think theres anything I can pull of at this point to at least get a booty call out of the deal? Im pretty sure at this point she was just looking for a one nighter, but damn it was good and Id love to tear her sheets off again. I havent talked to her in just over a week now, what you guys think, wait 2 more weeks and show up at her work (a bar), with some buddies to get a drink? Any ideas?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
MacAvoy
Banned
It may have been a great piece of azz but just think how many other great pieces of azz are you letting fall through the cracks by thinking about the past and not focussing on the future and hitting new tail.
ps most times a new piece of tail is great (given the circumstances of how it happened)
ps most times a new piece of tail is great (given the circumstances of how it happened)
oh i dont let anything fall through the cracks trust me. Ive got another girl on the line already, but she snores and I sleep horribly to start with. Shes hot though, but damn, I can find something wrong with any chick.
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