"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Date girl that banged a friend of mine

pyros

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Hi there DJ's.

A friend of mine(not a very good friend, just a dude I know) dated this girl for a month, but they broke up two weeks ago.
He said to me that HE broke up, because the girl is crazy.

Anyway, this girl is pretty hot.
It seems she likes me because for the last week she's been honking everytime she saw me in the street while she was driving. Today, she stopped the car for a minute and we talked. She offered me a ride, but my work was just around the corner. Anyway, I'd like to have asked her for her number, but while we were talking I was thinking:
' this hot girl, my friend broke up with her...is she realy crazy? I don't know, I'd like to bang her...blah,blah...' so in the end I said: 'ok, see you around! ' and I forgot to ask for the number.

Well, since I did not ask for her number, how do I get it now?
now I just wanted to send her a FB message asking for it (adding some humor also, or some joke), and then call her next day, talk for a bit and set a date. BUT I think it is not good that she adds me in FB, not yet, it would kill all the mystery.

What do you think? any tips? how do I get the number?
I'd just like to get to know her...and if she's fine... make out etc.


Thanks.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Htienvu

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Why would some guys want get with a girl who's already had his friend's d**k in her. I fail to understand!!! There are plenty more fish out there.
 

Desdinova

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pyros said:
Well, since I did not ask for her number, how do I get it now?
Get it next time (and if) you run into her again. Until then, approach other women. She's not the only single woman in existence.

When the opportunity presents itself, you need to take advantage of it. Approach more women, practice asking for their numbers, and it'll eventually become automatic.
 

pyros

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As I said, I just have some friendship with this dude, so I see no difference whether or not she banged him or some other guy.
Besides, I just want to bang her..nothing more for now.

I would have got her number but I was feeling confused because of all the stuff I was thinking while I talked to her. Anyway I think I'll send her a FB message tomorrow or the day after, because its obvious she likes me so the opportunity is already here.
 

Zerro

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Htienvu said:
Why would some guys want get with a girl who's already had his friend's d**k in her. I fail to understand!!! There are plenty more fish out there.
It depends on the guy. Hell, there's a chick whom one of my cousins briefly dated (dunno if he ever banged her) and that doesn't make her less attractive in my eyes. Maybe it's because he's a cool enough guy that it shows she at least has good taste.

On the other hand there are a few dudes whom any chick whose been with them is automatically spoiled for me. Often it's because they're such douchebags that she apparently has bad taste and/or is too easy, plus the implication of how many diseases she may be carrying due to it.

Also there is the issue that if she met me and another dude at the same time, picks him over me, then comes to me after getting dumped by him that I don't want much to do with her if only because I don't like being the second choice. (Doesn't apply to the first case above as they were already broken up before I ever met her.)
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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You should wait until you see her next; it will have a greater impact. If you FB her, it may convey the subliminal message you didn't have the balls to ask her. If you have been bumping into her as often as you have been, what's the problem in waiting? Patience is a virtue.
 
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