"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Date girl that banged a friend of mine

pyros

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Hi there DJ's.

A friend of mine(not a very good friend, just a dude I know) dated this girl for a month, but they broke up two weeks ago.
He said to me that HE broke up, because the girl is crazy.

Anyway, this girl is pretty hot.
It seems she likes me because for the last week she's been honking everytime she saw me in the street while she was driving. Today, she stopped the car for a minute and we talked. She offered me a ride, but my work was just around the corner. Anyway, I'd like to have asked her for her number, but while we were talking I was thinking:
' this hot girl, my friend broke up with her...is she realy crazy? I don't know, I'd like to bang her...blah,blah...' so in the end I said: 'ok, see you around! ' and I forgot to ask for the number.

Well, since I did not ask for her number, how do I get it now?
now I just wanted to send her a FB message asking for it (adding some humor also, or some joke), and then call her next day, talk for a bit and set a date. BUT I think it is not good that she adds me in FB, not yet, it would kill all the mystery.

What do you think? any tips? how do I get the number?
I'd just like to get to know her...and if she's fine... make out etc.


Thanks.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Htienvu

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Why would some guys want get with a girl who's already had his friend's d**k in her. I fail to understand!!! There are plenty more fish out there.
 

Desdinova

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pyros said:
Well, since I did not ask for her number, how do I get it now?
Get it next time (and if) you run into her again. Until then, approach other women. She's not the only single woman in existence.

When the opportunity presents itself, you need to take advantage of it. Approach more women, practice asking for their numbers, and it'll eventually become automatic.
 

pyros

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As I said, I just have some friendship with this dude, so I see no difference whether or not she banged him or some other guy.
Besides, I just want to bang her..nothing more for now.

I would have got her number but I was feeling confused because of all the stuff I was thinking while I talked to her. Anyway I think I'll send her a FB message tomorrow or the day after, because its obvious she likes me so the opportunity is already here.
 

Zerro

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Htienvu said:
Why would some guys want get with a girl who's already had his friend's d**k in her. I fail to understand!!! There are plenty more fish out there.
It depends on the guy. Hell, there's a chick whom one of my cousins briefly dated (dunno if he ever banged her) and that doesn't make her less attractive in my eyes. Maybe it's because he's a cool enough guy that it shows she at least has good taste.

On the other hand there are a few dudes whom any chick whose been with them is automatically spoiled for me. Often it's because they're such douchebags that she apparently has bad taste and/or is too easy, plus the implication of how many diseases she may be carrying due to it.

Also there is the issue that if she met me and another dude at the same time, picks him over me, then comes to me after getting dumped by him that I don't want much to do with her if only because I don't like being the second choice. (Doesn't apply to the first case above as they were already broken up before I ever met her.)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Deep Dish

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You should wait until you see her next; it will have a greater impact. If you FB her, it may convey the subliminal message you didn't have the balls to ask her. If you have been bumping into her as often as you have been, what's the problem in waiting? Patience is a virtue.
 
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