"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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priz

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Okay, so I'm going on a date w/ a girl I barely know. Met her at a party and talked to her on AIM a few times..I plan on setting up a date tomorrow for either friday or saturday night.

Now on the date, what are some good convo starters? I know some things about her, but not much. What are good open ended questions to break the ice?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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average questions can easily be turned with simple followups...

example
you: do you work?
her: yeah i'm a hostess at outback
you: do you like it?
her: well i'm thinking about quitting its pissing me off (got a bit more)
you: why?
her: because my boss always schedules me for friday nights but i dont wanna work friday nights and yadda yadda yadda

see? you can take a usually mundane question and turn it to something progressively larger.
 

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priz said:
Okay, so I'm going on a date w/ a girl I barely know. Met her at a party and talked to her on AIM a few times..I plan on setting up a date tomorrow for either friday or saturday night.

Now on the date, what are some good convo starters? I know some things about her, but not much. What are good open ended questions to break the ice?
just talk to her..there are no rules

if you're comfortable with the person, you will have fun, when you have fun, then the other person has fun too

when you talk just add when, how, why, what, where, who...
let HER talk..but let there be some silences in between
 

dannowillbookem

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just remember and repeat...

i'm a man, i'm in control, and i want to get the most out of this moment as possible, every moment possible
 

priz

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Okay...so I called her tonight to setup the date..when I called her she seemed kind of down, then I told her it was me and she got all excited and was uplifted...we talked a lil about random **** that was goin on, but she said she needed to get rdy for bed and she'd call me back (not sure if she meant tonight or tomorrow..i dont remember)...anyway I didn't get a chance to ask her if she was free for fri/sat night, so should I wait for her to call me tomorrow and if she doesn't I call her? She seems into me just by her reaction alone when I called.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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if she doesnt call leave it a day or two... you dont want to be overly keen... you want her to see you are quite busy etc
 

priz

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K...well she hasn't called me today, should I wait until tomorrow? I want to setup the date for friday night..the thing is, the longer I wait, the more likely she is to have made plans already for that night. I was talking to some girl for advice and she said its fine to call her tonight.
 

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yea tomorrow, or you could wait until next week and sort something out then, like say your busy this friday or something
 
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