"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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priz

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Okay, so I'm going on a date w/ a girl I barely know. Met her at a party and talked to her on AIM a few times..I plan on setting up a date tomorrow for either friday or saturday night.

Now on the date, what are some good convo starters? I know some things about her, but not much. What are good open ended questions to break the ice?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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dannowillbookem

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average questions can easily be turned with simple followups...

example
you: do you work?
her: yeah i'm a hostess at outback
you: do you like it?
her: well i'm thinking about quitting its pissing me off (got a bit more)
you: why?
her: because my boss always schedules me for friday nights but i dont wanna work friday nights and yadda yadda yadda

see? you can take a usually mundane question and turn it to something progressively larger.
 

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priz said:
Okay, so I'm going on a date w/ a girl I barely know. Met her at a party and talked to her on AIM a few times..I plan on setting up a date tomorrow for either friday or saturday night.

Now on the date, what are some good convo starters? I know some things about her, but not much. What are good open ended questions to break the ice?
just talk to her..there are no rules

if you're comfortable with the person, you will have fun, when you have fun, then the other person has fun too

when you talk just add when, how, why, what, where, who...
let HER talk..but let there be some silences in between
 

dannowillbookem

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just remember and repeat...

i'm a man, i'm in control, and i want to get the most out of this moment as possible, every moment possible
 

priz

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Okay...so I called her tonight to setup the date..when I called her she seemed kind of down, then I told her it was me and she got all excited and was uplifted...we talked a lil about random **** that was goin on, but she said she needed to get rdy for bed and she'd call me back (not sure if she meant tonight or tomorrow..i dont remember)...anyway I didn't get a chance to ask her if she was free for fri/sat night, so should I wait for her to call me tomorrow and if she doesn't I call her? She seems into me just by her reaction alone when I called.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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if she doesnt call leave it a day or two... you dont want to be overly keen... you want her to see you are quite busy etc
 

priz

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K...well she hasn't called me today, should I wait until tomorrow? I want to setup the date for friday night..the thing is, the longer I wait, the more likely she is to have made plans already for that night. I was talking to some girl for advice and she said its fine to call her tonight.
 

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yea tomorrow, or you could wait until next week and sort something out then, like say your busy this friday or something
 
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