"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Hamurabimbi

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I’ve found many women get turned on by guys who break the rules. Maybe this has something to do with it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Polarity is the driving force of attraction. Boldness and mastery are hugely attractive to women because they are not naturally bold, and they are naturally scattered.

They are attracted to men who expose themselves to dangerous activities because of their instinctual drive toward safety. They can’t comprehend our love of dangerous stuff and risk-taking, and hence the attraction.

The genders are hugely attracted to that which they lack.
 

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My question is: if the man is doing Ballet with extreme confidence and assuredness, it that intensely attractive to women?
From what I’ve seen, yes. Top-tier straight male ballet dancers have status in social circles of very sexy, attractive women, and absolutely slay them.
 

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Understood, but the problem is that passion can’t be faked. Talent can’t be faked either.

If you force yourself to do something you have no passion for (because it’s sexier to women), you will burn out, ie get sick of it.

If you force yourself to do something you have no talent for (just to impress women), you aren’t going to “shine” at it (and attract attention) anyway. You’ll work your azz off to be mediocre at best.
Playing competitive sports. or trying to do MMA/boxing when youre not a natural athlete is beyond stupid. Youll just be a mediocre benchwarmer or end up with brain damage.
 

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From my understanding, women are attracted to men who partake in these dangerous or exiting hobbies. For example surfing, motorbike riding, boxing/fighting, or any full contact sport or extreme sport.

Are they attracted to the risk taking?

If a man should value himself would putting his body on the line contradict this?

Or is it simply a case of having passion for something regardless of whether it's generally considered 'boring' or 'exciting' is the key?
What @MoMoses said.

It's a caveman thing. Sorry-not-sorry, religious folks.

Women, and people, in general, seek adventure and a sense of being truly alive, and that only happens when you are playing with death. It's one of the primal behaviors that make us human. No one really enjoys someone that plays it safe all the time, at least no genuinely. They might convince themselves they do but they don't.

Is it risky and contradicting our sense of preservation? Of course. Does it show and display confidence? Heck yeah. And that again, our friends, is key for women.

Now you don't have to be Evel Knievel to show this, but generally speaking, extreme sports transpire a certain mindset behind that person that is very attractive.


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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I raced motocross for 20 years and for 10 years at a high level. Started when I was 5. Over that time I broke 5 ribs an arm and other various injuries. I have always been an adrenaline junky and after getting out of it 6 years ago, cant find anything to take its place.
 

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I raced motocross for 20 years and for 10 years at a high level. Started when I was 5. Over that time I broke 5 ribs an arm and other various injuries. I have always been an adrenaline junky and after getting out of it 6 years ago, cant find anything to take its place.
Respect from me Glassguy. Pro in the big races "Baja" Raced many moto's (Novice class) IMO a fast Desert racer gets schooled on the track. I can't scrub :up:
Came back to edit.. Dude >> Mountain biking, very rewarding for us X moto heads..

In regards to the subject. Women flocked at us racers.. Now I have to work for it.
 
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Extreme and/or potentially dangerous sports ARE attractive to women. Absolutely. I’m not questioning that part at all.

I was just getting into whether or not it’s worth it for certain guys to get involved with that. That’s all.

TLDR: Yes, it attracts women, but it’s not for everybody.
 

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I dunno man. I have a dangerous job dealing with toxic $hit on the job everyday and women aren't attracted to me regardless if I smell like $hit or not. Maybe I should find an alternative title other than "Facilities Manager" when I tell them, that sounds more dangerous?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Do they have two arms and two legs?
That was the mentality of my former football coaches in high school. "We need more players you dont need to be any good." Translation: We need warm bodies for our 1st string players to run over and we dont give 2 sh1ts if you get hurt."
 

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That was the mentality of my former football coaches in high school.
Do you box? if so, then you would know they pair you up with a coach one on one. teach you the fundamentals before they allow you to spar with someone at your skill level. they don't just toss you in there to fight with someone whose been at it for 10+ years on day 1.
 

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I'm a combat veteran, and there's something about my photos in uniform, with all my battle rattle on, holding my AR-15, that drives women insane.

Like @Modern Man Advice says above, it's a psychological thing.

Women are evolutionarily hard-wired to seek a man that can do two things: Provide and Protect
Wouldn’t it be an M16A2-4 or an M4? The AR-15 is the non select-fire civilian variant.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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From my understanding, women are attracted to men who partake in these dangerous or exiting hobbies. For example surfing, motorbike riding, boxing/fighting, or any full contact sport or extreme sport.

Are they attracted to the risk taking?

If a man should value himself would putting his body on the line contradict this?

Or is it simply a case of having passion for something regardless of whether it's generally considered 'boring' or 'exciting' is the key?
My hobby is to stick my fingers into electrical outlets. Curiously, it does attract a lot of nurses.
 

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Wouldn’t it be an M16A2-4 or an M4? The AR-15 is the non select-fire civilian variant.
M41A is a superior machine. Beautiful too.

10 mm pulse-action air-cooled assault rifle used as the primary infantry weapon by the U.S. Colonial Marine Corps and the U.S. Army in during the late 22nd century. The weapon is seen with an over-and-under configuration incorporating a PN 30 mm pump-action grenade launcher.

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Wanna see women explode and cream their seat? Go to a boy band concert.
Women also love great dancers because the men are committing social suicide if they fvck up. It's a socially dangerous hobby, if you're looking for something that won't end in your death, learn to dance. Absolutely no one cares or knows about the top base jumpers but everyone on the planet knows...

 
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