"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Damn lil gal!

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So this is the situation

meet this gal at the weekend as you may already know, before the weekend she tells me the balls in my court and she likes it when a guy takes control

so weekend comes, we get no alone time, to do anything

get home, i tell her i couldnt take advantage coz of lack of alone time and im not hooking up with her infront of her friends

she says im suprised u didnt, as most guys would!

anyway, she and her friends are coming to mine and i say to her "so if you come to mine and i put the ball in your court, would ya take advantage?"

she says "the balls never in my court, you know i prefer it when the guy takes control"

stupid gal wont meet me alone as her friends will kill us both (long story they just would) but how am i supposed to get alone time with her to take control when her friends are about?


should i say, before we meet again with friends, as the guy whose gotta take control, im coming to yours to meet you alone?

(btw we live literally hours away, we cant just meet like that)

any help/advice?

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Do you go to Cornell?

Anway just take her and leave. That's how you have the ball in your court. She even said that she likes when a guy takes control. Take and go somewhere. By yourselves.
 

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no i dont

anyway, i said to her "well alright then, im gonna take control and say before you come to mine were meeting up alone, just me and u"

she said "lol we will see how it goes, night night x"
 

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That's not taking control. That's showing all your cards in a poker game. WHY would you tell her what your going to do?! Your supposed to be unpredictable. Just do it without her knowing.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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alright so what now?

anyway she loves being a challenge, i once told her i love it when a gal is a challenge and shes definatly playing up2 that!
 
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