"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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DAMN I just had to flake on a girl and now she hates me

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I had a date set up with a cute girl I met online. I was getting ready for the date and shaved really fast and I nicked myself right beside my mouth and now the skin is all dry and red there. I thought OMG I can't go she is going to think I have a disease.

What the hell would I think if a girl had red crap on the corner of her mouth? I'd think "BYE BYE".

So I told her I had a family emergency can we reschedule? She said she was already at the coffee shop and told me to have a nice life basically.

Damn this stinks... but I did the right thing. I couldn't go like this.

Maybe now we can understand why chics flake sometimes.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Kingpin said:
I had a date set up with a cute girl I met online. I was getting ready for the date and shaved really fast and I nicked myself right beside my mouth and now the skin is all dry and red there. I thought OMG I can't go she is going to think I have a disease.

What the hell would I think if a girl had red crap on the corner of her mouth? I'd think "BYE BYE".

So I told her I had a family emergency can we reschedule? She said she was already at the coffee shop and told me to have a nice life basically.

Damn this stinks... but I did the right thing. I couldn't go like this.

Maybe now we can understand why chics flake sometimes.
That was a horrible reason for flaking.

You should have told her that you cut yourself shaving.

Your brain is messing up your game, telling you stupid things like "OMG she might think I have a disease."

Stop thinking so much. You are a man, not a chick.
 

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It doesnt look like a cut. The skin on the corner of my mouth is all dry and red like an inch across. It looks like I have something going on but I don't. The skin just gets dry sometimes and looks that way. And its right on the corner like it could be cold sores or something.
 
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Kingpin said:
It doesnt look like a cut. The skin on the corner of my mouth is all dry and red like an inch across. It looks like I have something going on but I don't. The skin just gets dry sometimes and looks that way. And its right on the corner like it could be cold sores or something.
There's an amazing invention that you might of heard of.

Its called a band-aid.

You really need to read Febreze's post on overthinking.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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And? If she asks you tell her, doing it with a smile (maybe even making fun of it). Just be real & cool. 8)
 

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The Muscle Guy said:
There's an amazing invention that you might of heard of.

Its called a band-aid.

Band Aid on the corner of my mouth? I dont think that would have helped lol.
 

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I know most of these DJ's frown on sending flowers, but IMO you can send her some roses or something. when a man is wrong, a man is wrong. he shouldn't be afraid to make things right. the other alternative is a gift card for a restaurant under the guise that you wasted some of her time, so now you want to make it up to her. in that case, tell her she can have dinner with her friends to make up for her lost time. theres a good chance she will invite YOU to the dinner. then you are back in.
 

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Joe Stud said:
I know most of these DJ's frown on sending flowers, but IMO you can send her some roses or something. when a man is wrong, a man is wrong. he shouldn't be afraid to make things right. the other alternative is a gift card for a restaurant under the guise that you wasted some of her time, so now you want to make it up to her. in that case, tell her she can have dinner with her friends to make up for her lost time. theres a good chance she will invite YOU to the dinner. then you are back in.

I'm just going to forget her and move on. I'm not broken up or anything. But I did want to meet her. Oh well... I freaked out because with all the diseases out there I was sure she would freak out about it.

I already told her I will buy her dinner to make it up she said no and told me to go to hell basically.
 

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learn to shave!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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You did what you could. Oh well fvck it.
 

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Wow this actually opened my eyes to why chicks may actually flake sometimes. Thanks.
 

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guywhoneedshelp said:
Wow this actually opened my eyes to why chicks may actually flake sometimes. Thanks.

That's what I thought too. I wasnt going on a first date with red crap on my mouth like I had a disease. Too bad the girl was a b!tch and told me to go to hell. I told her I had a family emergency. Maybe I should have told her the truth? "hey babe I got this dry cut skin on my mouth and I cant make the date cuz you will think I have a disease"... would that have gone better?
 

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play it cool, aloof & indifferent. maybe she will soften up and reapproach you.
in the meantime, use "edge" or some type of good shaving gell (not shaving cream), and be sure to use hot water first to soften up your beard. chicks like a smooth face anyway... feels good when you are rubbing it along the in side of their thighs, neck, etc.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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yes women love irritation rashes on their faces, neck and legs from our beard stubble ;)
 
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