"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DAMN I just had to flake on a girl and now she hates me

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I had a date set up with a cute girl I met online. I was getting ready for the date and shaved really fast and I nicked myself right beside my mouth and now the skin is all dry and red there. I thought OMG I can't go she is going to think I have a disease.

What the hell would I think if a girl had red crap on the corner of her mouth? I'd think "BYE BYE".

So I told her I had a family emergency can we reschedule? She said she was already at the coffee shop and told me to have a nice life basically.

Damn this stinks... but I did the right thing. I couldn't go like this.

Maybe now we can understand why chics flake sometimes.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Kingpin said:
I had a date set up with a cute girl I met online. I was getting ready for the date and shaved really fast and I nicked myself right beside my mouth and now the skin is all dry and red there. I thought OMG I can't go she is going to think I have a disease.

What the hell would I think if a girl had red crap on the corner of her mouth? I'd think "BYE BYE".

So I told her I had a family emergency can we reschedule? She said she was already at the coffee shop and told me to have a nice life basically.

Damn this stinks... but I did the right thing. I couldn't go like this.

Maybe now we can understand why chics flake sometimes.
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That was a horrible reason for flaking.

You should have told her that you cut yourself shaving.

Your brain is messing up your game, telling you stupid things like "OMG she might think I have a disease."

Stop thinking so much. You are a man, not a chick.
 
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It doesnt look like a cut. The skin on the corner of my mouth is all dry and red like an inch across. It looks like I have something going on but I don't. The skin just gets dry sometimes and looks that way. And its right on the corner like it could be cold sores or something.
 
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It doesnt look like a cut. The skin on the corner of my mouth is all dry and red like an inch across. It looks like I have something going on but I don't. The skin just gets dry sometimes and looks that way. And its right on the corner like it could be cold sores or something.
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There's an amazing invention that you might of heard of.

Its called a band-aid.

You really need to read Febreze's post on overthinking.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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And? If she asks you tell her, doing it with a smile (maybe even making fun of it). Just be real & cool. 8)
 
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There's an amazing invention that you might of heard of.

Its called a band-aid.
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Band Aid on the corner of my mouth? I dont think that would have helped lol.
 
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I know most of these DJ's frown on sending flowers, but IMO you can send her some roses or something. when a man is wrong, a man is wrong. he shouldn't be afraid to make things right. the other alternative is a gift card for a restaurant under the guise that you wasted some of her time, so now you want to make it up to her. in that case, tell her she can have dinner with her friends to make up for her lost time. theres a good chance she will invite YOU to the dinner. then you are back in.
 
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I know most of these DJ's frown on sending flowers, but IMO you can send her some roses or something. when a man is wrong, a man is wrong. he shouldn't be afraid to make things right. the other alternative is a gift card for a restaurant under the guise that you wasted some of her time, so now you want to make it up to her. in that case, tell her she can have dinner with her friends to make up for her lost time. theres a good chance she will invite YOU to the dinner. then you are back in.
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I'm just going to forget her and move on. I'm not broken up or anything. But I did want to meet her. Oh well... I freaked out because with all the diseases out there I was sure she would freak out about it.

I already told her I will buy her dinner to make it up she said no and told me to go to hell basically.
 
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learn to shave!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You did what you could. Oh well fvck it.
 
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Wow this actually opened my eyes to why chicks may actually flake sometimes. Thanks.
 
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Wow this actually opened my eyes to why chicks may actually flake sometimes. Thanks.
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That's what I thought too. I wasnt going on a first date with red crap on my mouth like I had a disease. Too bad the girl was a b!tch and told me to go to hell. I told her I had a family emergency. Maybe I should have told her the truth? "hey babe I got this dry cut skin on my mouth and I cant make the date cuz you will think I have a disease"... would that have gone better?
 
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play it cool, aloof & indifferent. maybe she will soften up and reapproach you.
in the meantime, use "edge" or some type of good shaving gell (not shaving cream), and be sure to use hot water first to soften up your beard. chicks like a smooth face anyway... feels good when you are rubbing it along the in side of their thighs, neck, etc.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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yes women love irritation rashes on their faces, neck and legs from our beard stubble ;)
 
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