"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Damn Dunken Texts....
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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That just the way it is.
Not very grammatical that story, but ya get the idea....
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
WesCottII
Master Don Juan
However, your intentions are clear to her now, I've lost a few women through them thinking I don't like them, so from that POV, I think it's a good thing.
WesCottII
Master Don Juan
I disagree. It's a mistake if you get all needy and desperate about her.Bvbidd said:
You can tell a girl you like her, and not be a sap.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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The chase is sometimes the best bit. we all want what isnt easily obtainable.
That was a bad thing. Girls do NOT like telling people they like them. They don't like hearing it.
They expect you to go for it without knowing. A blind leap if you will.
It affirms their insecurities or some bullsiht.
Needless to say, they don't like pussies. Next time you drink, think about what you're doing.
Telling a girl you like her pisses her off and will make her run away. I can assure you of this. DO NOT think otherwise it will ruin you later. She only wants what she can't have, if you like her she has absolutley no reason to be with you.WesCottII said:
tsmith2334
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true I just had this convo with a girl...WesCottII said:
she goes "I get nervous around you do you get nervous too?"
me "I think everyone gets nervous around people they like"
Damn I'm getting better at this.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
All criticism is good..just allows us all to become better people....im not a virgin, but this is the first time ive liked a girl in this way...and gone about doing something about it. Granted, it wasnt the right thing, and theres a 90% that it aint gonna happen.....but with it being a first time, i now know what not to do in future.
Cheers for the reply's guys.....and if by the offchance anything does happen..youll be first to know