"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Damn Dunken Texts....
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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That just the way it is.
Not very grammatical that story, but ya get the idea....
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
WesCottII
Master Don Juan
However, your intentions are clear to her now, I've lost a few women through them thinking I don't like them, so from that POV, I think it's a good thing.
WesCottII
Master Don Juan
I disagree. It's a mistake if you get all needy and desperate about her.Bvbidd said:
You can tell a girl you like her, and not be a sap.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
PectoralisMajor
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The chase is sometimes the best bit. we all want what isnt easily obtainable.
That was a bad thing. Girls do NOT like telling people they like them. They don't like hearing it.
They expect you to go for it without knowing. A blind leap if you will.
It affirms their insecurities or some bullsiht.
Needless to say, they don't like pussies. Next time you drink, think about what you're doing.
Telling a girl you like her pisses her off and will make her run away. I can assure you of this. DO NOT think otherwise it will ruin you later. She only wants what she can't have, if you like her she has absolutley no reason to be with you.WesCottII said:
tsmith2334
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true I just had this convo with a girl...WesCottII said:
she goes "I get nervous around you do you get nervous too?"
me "I think everyone gets nervous around people they like"
Damn I'm getting better at this.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
All criticism is good..just allows us all to become better people....im not a virgin, but this is the first time ive liked a girl in this way...and gone about doing something about it. Granted, it wasnt the right thing, and theres a 90% that it aint gonna happen.....but with it being a first time, i now know what not to do in future.
Cheers for the reply's guys.....and if by the offchance anything does happen..youll be first to know