"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Damn Dunken Texts....
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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That just the way it is.
Not very grammatical that story, but ya get the idea....
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
WesCottII
Master Don Juan
However, your intentions are clear to her now, I've lost a few women through them thinking I don't like them, so from that POV, I think it's a good thing.
WesCottII
Master Don Juan
I disagree. It's a mistake if you get all needy and desperate about her.Bvbidd said:
You can tell a girl you like her, and not be a sap.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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The chase is sometimes the best bit. we all want what isnt easily obtainable.
That was a bad thing. Girls do NOT like telling people they like them. They don't like hearing it.
They expect you to go for it without knowing. A blind leap if you will.
It affirms their insecurities or some bullsiht.
Needless to say, they don't like pussies. Next time you drink, think about what you're doing.
Telling a girl you like her pisses her off and will make her run away. I can assure you of this. DO NOT think otherwise it will ruin you later. She only wants what she can't have, if you like her she has absolutley no reason to be with you.WesCottII said:
tsmith2334
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true I just had this convo with a girl...WesCottII said:
she goes "I get nervous around you do you get nervous too?"
me "I think everyone gets nervous around people they like"
Damn I'm getting better at this.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
All criticism is good..just allows us all to become better people....im not a virgin, but this is the first time ive liked a girl in this way...and gone about doing something about it. Granted, it wasnt the right thing, and theres a 90% that it aint gonna happen.....but with it being a first time, i now know what not to do in future.
Cheers for the reply's guys.....and if by the offchance anything does happen..youll be first to know