"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Da hell is wrong with me?

crazyman11

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My problem here is when i have a chance to make a move on a girl, I totally freak out. One example is when one girl approached me when i was training for Track and Field, she was a um.... butterface, she said "Hey [my name], since we're alone, how about you give me a kiss?" It's in situations like that, where I just don't know how to act. I am just so damn stunned. Another example is when HB7 says "Hey [my name] whenever you want, we should hang out some time, I mean it." And even after that, i just don't want to do anything. I would probably even work my magic on a girl up to the #close, and just freak out.

Well, anyone have an idea what's wrong with me? what I should do to cure this?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Grand Wizzard Alamar

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you need more self confidence.
do it even if you're afraid. if you want to fix your freaking out problem, do things anyway especially because you're afraid.

be like "nope, but you can give me a kiss if you want one so badly"
(in case of a sh!t test).

or you can just say okay and kiss her.

do stuff anyway that you don't feel comfortable doing if you want to gain the comfort of doing them.
 

Plec07

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Alamar pretty much nailed it. You gotta just push forward and try your hardest not to freak out. If your the one initiating rather than her you can do it in small steps at your own speed, making it easier. The key is to just get it over and done with the first time and the rest will be easy.
 

Grand Wizzard Alamar

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just nail them first so they can't nail you =)
 

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Do you know what's better then you putting yourself out there?
When they already did the work for you.

Man, start saying YES more often.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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haha heres what I would have done
HER. Kiss me?
ME. Give me ten bucks
HER. haha

but i know how ya feel. Just think of something that contains C&F and youre good. But i think C&F is great in all these type of situations coz you never know if she is just trying to make you look like an ass, but C&F turns it around.
 

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noirsake said:
haha heres what I would have done
HER. Kiss me?
ME. Give me ten bucks
HER. haha

but i know how ya feel. Just think of something that contains C&F and youre good. But i think C&F is great in all these type of situations coz you never know if she is just trying to make you look like an ass, but C&F turns it around.
Exactly, this is money. Another example would be

Her: I'd really like to blow you.....
you: alright, what's in it for me?
etc...

Once you know she's serious about it, you've just gotta take that first plunge. After you've done it once, it gets sooo much easier.
 
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