Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Da hell is wrong with me?

crazyman11

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My problem here is when i have a chance to make a move on a girl, I totally freak out. One example is when one girl approached me when i was training for Track and Field, she was a um.... butterface, she said "Hey [my name], since we're alone, how about you give me a kiss?" It's in situations like that, where I just don't know how to act. I am just so damn stunned. Another example is when HB7 says "Hey [my name] whenever you want, we should hang out some time, I mean it." And even after that, i just don't want to do anything. I would probably even work my magic on a girl up to the #close, and just freak out.

Well, anyone have an idea what's wrong with me? what I should do to cure this?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Grand Wizzard Alamar

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you need more self confidence.
do it even if you're afraid. if you want to fix your freaking out problem, do things anyway especially because you're afraid.

be like "nope, but you can give me a kiss if you want one so badly"
(in case of a sh!t test).

or you can just say okay and kiss her.

do stuff anyway that you don't feel comfortable doing if you want to gain the comfort of doing them.
 

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Alamar pretty much nailed it. You gotta just push forward and try your hardest not to freak out. If your the one initiating rather than her you can do it in small steps at your own speed, making it easier. The key is to just get it over and done with the first time and the rest will be easy.
 

Grand Wizzard Alamar

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just nail them first so they can't nail you =)
 

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Do you know what's better then you putting yourself out there?
When they already did the work for you.

Man, start saying YES more often.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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haha heres what I would have done
HER. Kiss me?
ME. Give me ten bucks
HER. haha

but i know how ya feel. Just think of something that contains C&F and youre good. But i think C&F is great in all these type of situations coz you never know if she is just trying to make you look like an ass, but C&F turns it around.
 

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noirsake said:
haha heres what I would have done
HER. Kiss me?
ME. Give me ten bucks
HER. haha

but i know how ya feel. Just think of something that contains C&F and youre good. But i think C&F is great in all these type of situations coz you never know if she is just trying to make you look like an ass, but C&F turns it around.
Exactly, this is money. Another example would be

Her: I'd really like to blow you.....
you: alright, what's in it for me?
etc...

Once you know she's serious about it, you've just gotta take that first plunge. After you've done it once, it gets sooo much easier.
 
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