"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Da hell is wrong with me?

crazyman11

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My problem here is when i have a chance to make a move on a girl, I totally freak out. One example is when one girl approached me when i was training for Track and Field, she was a um.... butterface, she said "Hey [my name], since we're alone, how about you give me a kiss?" It's in situations like that, where I just don't know how to act. I am just so damn stunned. Another example is when HB7 says "Hey [my name] whenever you want, we should hang out some time, I mean it." And even after that, i just don't want to do anything. I would probably even work my magic on a girl up to the #close, and just freak out.

Well, anyone have an idea what's wrong with me? what I should do to cure this?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Grand Wizzard Alamar

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you need more self confidence.
do it even if you're afraid. if you want to fix your freaking out problem, do things anyway especially because you're afraid.

be like "nope, but you can give me a kiss if you want one so badly"
(in case of a sh!t test).

or you can just say okay and kiss her.

do stuff anyway that you don't feel comfortable doing if you want to gain the comfort of doing them.
 

Plec07

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Alamar pretty much nailed it. You gotta just push forward and try your hardest not to freak out. If your the one initiating rather than her you can do it in small steps at your own speed, making it easier. The key is to just get it over and done with the first time and the rest will be easy.
 

Grand Wizzard Alamar

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just nail them first so they can't nail you =)
 

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Do you know what's better then you putting yourself out there?
When they already did the work for you.

Man, start saying YES more often.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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haha heres what I would have done
HER. Kiss me?
ME. Give me ten bucks
HER. haha

but i know how ya feel. Just think of something that contains C&F and youre good. But i think C&F is great in all these type of situations coz you never know if she is just trying to make you look like an ass, but C&F turns it around.
 

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noirsake said:
haha heres what I would have done
HER. Kiss me?
ME. Give me ten bucks
HER. haha

but i know how ya feel. Just think of something that contains C&F and youre good. But i think C&F is great in all these type of situations coz you never know if she is just trying to make you look like an ass, but C&F turns it around.
Exactly, this is money. Another example would be

Her: I'd really like to blow you.....
you: alright, what's in it for me?
etc...

Once you know she's serious about it, you've just gotta take that first plunge. After you've done it once, it gets sooo much easier.
 
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