Does anyone get a strong sense of cynicism when dealing with people? I tend to get it a lot especially when dealing with members of the opposite sex that either show interest or are borderline throwing themselves at me. For some reason the more attractive the woman the more this happens. I try to chill out but sometimes the more I try the worse it gets.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Also as much as it hurts my ego to admit this (I pride myself on being a lone wolf) I can't do any approaches on my own. Years of bad experiences have deteriorated whatever little confidence I may have had. Whats a good place to find ppl in the community to show you how things work? I know so much theory but put no effort in seeing what works for me and what doesn't.
Honestly, yes. I'm always cynical when a cute girl shows any kind of interest. Been burned alot. For some reason, the more cynical I am, the more in control I am since her looks and personality really don't bother me. I do whatever the fvck I want and can shake off any influence the hottie has over me.
Apparently its super attractive since I get a positive response.
Just go in and try to have fun with the situation, but really don't expect anything otherwise you WILL be disappointed. Do what you can, keep doing it and when it doesn't seem to work anymore try again or move on.
Don't worry about people from the community. Find some guys you want to be like and for sure their personality will rub off on you. Its inevitable. You're the sum total of your friends.
Apparently its super attractive since I get a positive response.
Just go in and try to have fun with the situation, but really don't expect anything otherwise you WILL be disappointed. Do what you can, keep doing it and when it doesn't seem to work anymore try again or move on.
Don't worry about people from the community. Find some guys you want to be like and for sure their personality will rub off on you. Its inevitable. You're the sum total of your friends.
You're only the sum total of your friends if you're a complete follower. My friends try to be like me, not the other way around.Alle_Gory said:Honestly, yes. I'm always cynical when a cute girl shows any kind of interest. Been burned alot. For some reason, the more cynical I am, the more in control I am since her looks and personality really don't bother me. I do whatever the fvck I want and can shake off any influence the hottie has over me.
Apparently its super attractive since I get a positive response.
Just go in and try to have fun with the situation, but really don't expect anything otherwise you WILL be disappointed. Do what you can, keep doing it and when it doesn't seem to work anymore try again or move on.
Don't worry about people from the community. Find some guys you want to be like and for sure their personality will rub off on you. Its inevitable. You're the sum total of your friends.
It can go both ways. Sum total because you like to surround yourself with people who like similar things. Some like sports, some like music... etc. You're still the sum total.Ice882 said:You're only the sum total of your friends if you're a complete follower. My friends try to be like me, not the other way around.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Hughman
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I find most people I know are the other way round. They are in the Matrix. They think fortune will find them without having to work to realise that dream. Relationships and love can't be controlled. Game is a pointless venture. All far too optimistic and believe far too strongly in the propaganda that the Media spews out.
I'm the one that feels like the big cynic. But I know it, and I deal with it. I'm out to make my own future, my own 'fortune'. Seeing the Matrix for what it is has been the best thing that has ever happened to me.
I'm the one that feels like the big cynic. But I know it, and I deal with it. I'm out to make my own future, my own 'fortune'. Seeing the Matrix for what it is has been the best thing that has ever happened to me.