Does anyone get a strong sense of cynicism when dealing with people? I tend to get it a lot especially when dealing with members of the opposite sex that either show interest or are borderline throwing themselves at me. For some reason the more attractive the woman the more this happens. I try to chill out but sometimes the more I try the worse it gets.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Cynicism
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Also as much as it hurts my ego to admit this (I pride myself on being a lone wolf) I can't do any approaches on my own. Years of bad experiences have deteriorated whatever little confidence I may have had. Whats a good place to find ppl in the community to show you how things work? I know so much theory but put no effort in seeing what works for me and what doesn't.
Honestly, yes. I'm always cynical when a cute girl shows any kind of interest. Been burned alot. For some reason, the more cynical I am, the more in control I am since her looks and personality really don't bother me. I do whatever the fvck I want and can shake off any influence the hottie has over me.
Apparently its super attractive since I get a positive response.
Just go in and try to have fun with the situation, but really don't expect anything otherwise you WILL be disappointed. Do what you can, keep doing it and when it doesn't seem to work anymore try again or move on.
Don't worry about people from the community. Find some guys you want to be like and for sure their personality will rub off on you. Its inevitable. You're the sum total of your friends.
Apparently its super attractive since I get a positive response.
Just go in and try to have fun with the situation, but really don't expect anything otherwise you WILL be disappointed. Do what you can, keep doing it and when it doesn't seem to work anymore try again or move on.
Don't worry about people from the community. Find some guys you want to be like and for sure their personality will rub off on you. Its inevitable. You're the sum total of your friends.
You're only the sum total of your friends if you're a complete follower. My friends try to be like me, not the other way around.Alle_Gory said:Honestly, yes. I'm always cynical when a cute girl shows any kind of interest. Been burned alot. For some reason, the more cynical I am, the more in control I am since her looks and personality really don't bother me. I do whatever the fvck I want and can shake off any influence the hottie has over me.
Apparently its super attractive since I get a positive response.
Just go in and try to have fun with the situation, but really don't expect anything otherwise you WILL be disappointed. Do what you can, keep doing it and when it doesn't seem to work anymore try again or move on.
Don't worry about people from the community. Find some guys you want to be like and for sure their personality will rub off on you. Its inevitable. You're the sum total of your friends.
It can go both ways. Sum total because you like to surround yourself with people who like similar things. Some like sports, some like music... etc. You're still the sum total.Ice882 said:You're only the sum total of your friends if you're a complete follower. My friends try to be like me, not the other way around.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Hughman
Senior Don Juan
I find most people I know are the other way round. They are in the Matrix. They think fortune will find them without having to work to realise that dream. Relationships and love can't be controlled. Game is a pointless venture. All far too optimistic and believe far too strongly in the propaganda that the Media spews out.
I'm the one that feels like the big cynic. But I know it, and I deal with it. I'm out to make my own future, my own 'fortune'. Seeing the Matrix for what it is has been the best thing that has ever happened to me.
I'm the one that feels like the big cynic. But I know it, and I deal with it. I'm out to make my own future, my own 'fortune'. Seeing the Matrix for what it is has been the best thing that has ever happened to me.