Does anyone get a strong sense of cynicism when dealing with people? I tend to get it a lot especially when dealing with members of the opposite sex that either show interest or are borderline throwing themselves at me. For some reason the more attractive the woman the more this happens. I try to chill out but sometimes the more I try the worse it gets.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Also as much as it hurts my ego to admit this (I pride myself on being a lone wolf) I can't do any approaches on my own. Years of bad experiences have deteriorated whatever little confidence I may have had. Whats a good place to find ppl in the community to show you how things work? I know so much theory but put no effort in seeing what works for me and what doesn't.
Honestly, yes. I'm always cynical when a cute girl shows any kind of interest. Been burned alot. For some reason, the more cynical I am, the more in control I am since her looks and personality really don't bother me. I do whatever the fvck I want and can shake off any influence the hottie has over me.
Apparently its super attractive since I get a positive response.
Just go in and try to have fun with the situation, but really don't expect anything otherwise you WILL be disappointed. Do what you can, keep doing it and when it doesn't seem to work anymore try again or move on.
Don't worry about people from the community. Find some guys you want to be like and for sure their personality will rub off on you. Its inevitable. You're the sum total of your friends.
Apparently its super attractive since I get a positive response.
Just go in and try to have fun with the situation, but really don't expect anything otherwise you WILL be disappointed. Do what you can, keep doing it and when it doesn't seem to work anymore try again or move on.
Don't worry about people from the community. Find some guys you want to be like and for sure their personality will rub off on you. Its inevitable. You're the sum total of your friends.
You're only the sum total of your friends if you're a complete follower. My friends try to be like me, not the other way around.Alle_Gory said:Honestly, yes. I'm always cynical when a cute girl shows any kind of interest. Been burned alot. For some reason, the more cynical I am, the more in control I am since her looks and personality really don't bother me. I do whatever the fvck I want and can shake off any influence the hottie has over me.
Apparently its super attractive since I get a positive response.
Just go in and try to have fun with the situation, but really don't expect anything otherwise you WILL be disappointed. Do what you can, keep doing it and when it doesn't seem to work anymore try again or move on.
Don't worry about people from the community. Find some guys you want to be like and for sure their personality will rub off on you. Its inevitable. You're the sum total of your friends.
It can go both ways. Sum total because you like to surround yourself with people who like similar things. Some like sports, some like music... etc. You're still the sum total.Ice882 said:You're only the sum total of your friends if you're a complete follower. My friends try to be like me, not the other way around.
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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
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These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
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I find most people I know are the other way round. They are in the Matrix. They think fortune will find them without having to work to realise that dream. Relationships and love can't be controlled. Game is a pointless venture. All far too optimistic and believe far too strongly in the propaganda that the Media spews out.
I'm the one that feels like the big cynic. But I know it, and I deal with it. I'm out to make my own future, my own 'fortune'. Seeing the Matrix for what it is has been the best thing that has ever happened to me.
I'm the one that feels like the big cynic. But I know it, and I deal with it. I'm out to make my own future, my own 'fortune'. Seeing the Matrix for what it is has been the best thing that has ever happened to me.