Does anyone get a strong sense of cynicism when dealing with people? I tend to get it a lot especially when dealing with members of the opposite sex that either show interest or are borderline throwing themselves at me. For some reason the more attractive the woman the more this happens. I try to chill out but sometimes the more I try the worse it gets.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Also as much as it hurts my ego to admit this (I pride myself on being a lone wolf) I can't do any approaches on my own. Years of bad experiences have deteriorated whatever little confidence I may have had. Whats a good place to find ppl in the community to show you how things work? I know so much theory but put no effort in seeing what works for me and what doesn't.
Honestly, yes. I'm always cynical when a cute girl shows any kind of interest. Been burned alot. For some reason, the more cynical I am, the more in control I am since her looks and personality really don't bother me. I do whatever the fvck I want and can shake off any influence the hottie has over me.
Apparently its super attractive since I get a positive response.
Just go in and try to have fun with the situation, but really don't expect anything otherwise you WILL be disappointed. Do what you can, keep doing it and when it doesn't seem to work anymore try again or move on.
Don't worry about people from the community. Find some guys you want to be like and for sure their personality will rub off on you. Its inevitable. You're the sum total of your friends.
Apparently its super attractive since I get a positive response.
Just go in and try to have fun with the situation, but really don't expect anything otherwise you WILL be disappointed. Do what you can, keep doing it and when it doesn't seem to work anymore try again or move on.
Don't worry about people from the community. Find some guys you want to be like and for sure their personality will rub off on you. Its inevitable. You're the sum total of your friends.
You're only the sum total of your friends if you're a complete follower. My friends try to be like me, not the other way around.Alle_Gory said:Honestly, yes. I'm always cynical when a cute girl shows any kind of interest. Been burned alot. For some reason, the more cynical I am, the more in control I am since her looks and personality really don't bother me. I do whatever the fvck I want and can shake off any influence the hottie has over me.
Apparently its super attractive since I get a positive response.
Just go in and try to have fun with the situation, but really don't expect anything otherwise you WILL be disappointed. Do what you can, keep doing it and when it doesn't seem to work anymore try again or move on.
Don't worry about people from the community. Find some guys you want to be like and for sure their personality will rub off on you. Its inevitable. You're the sum total of your friends.
It can go both ways. Sum total because you like to surround yourself with people who like similar things. Some like sports, some like music... etc. You're still the sum total.Ice882 said:You're only the sum total of your friends if you're a complete follower. My friends try to be like me, not the other way around.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Hughman
Senior Don Juan
I find most people I know are the other way round. They are in the Matrix. They think fortune will find them without having to work to realise that dream. Relationships and love can't be controlled. Game is a pointless venture. All far too optimistic and believe far too strongly in the propaganda that the Media spews out.
I'm the one that feels like the big cynic. But I know it, and I deal with it. I'm out to make my own future, my own 'fortune'. Seeing the Matrix for what it is has been the best thing that has ever happened to me.
I'm the one that feels like the big cynic. But I know it, and I deal with it. I'm out to make my own future, my own 'fortune'. Seeing the Matrix for what it is has been the best thing that has ever happened to me.