Well, i've been stuck in the LJBF zone for a while with this particular girl, and am ready to move on. The problem is that she thinks of me as her "best guy-friend" and i don't want to be a jerk about it or anything, but i just want to move on. So any advice on how to do this?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Cutting the cord?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
someone800
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Hey,
I think I'm in somewhat of the same situation. I met this girl at the beginning of the school year as she moved in from another state and I started hanging out with her and we became great friends and she considers me her "best guy-friend" I believe too. The thing is, there has probably been two-three times where I would find myself so attached to her that I would want to go for her. I usually conclude not to go for her, but she's really flirtatious and stuff. I don't know how this particular girl you know is, but if she's like the one I know-mind over matter.
I think I'm in somewhat of the same situation. I met this girl at the beginning of the school year as she moved in from another state and I started hanging out with her and we became great friends and she considers me her "best guy-friend" I believe too. The thing is, there has probably been two-three times where I would find myself so attached to her that I would want to go for her. I usually conclude not to go for her, but she's really flirtatious and stuff. I don't know how this particular girl you know is, but if she's like the one I know-mind over matter.
HTownLunatic
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Same issue here. But recently, I have just begun to stop giving her so much attention, like walking her to class and such. So now I feel less attached and less of a need to talk to her as much as I used to. I used to look forward to seeing her everyday. She has even begun to say, at least on three occasions, "We haven't talked in so long."
So long story short, don't talk to her as often as you used to and you will feel less attached.
So long story short, don't talk to her as often as you used to and you will feel less attached.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Munchking
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I have been in a similar situation. My suggestion is to let the friendship naturally dissolve: just put less effort into spending time with her. If you chat a lot on an IM, don't sign on as often, or be busy. Just change a few small parts of your life which enable the two of you to drift apart. You'll remain on good terms, but the "close bond" will wear away over time.
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if she is worth a friend, keep her as an honest friend because it's not all about flirting with women, sometimes we need some friends that are girls
if she is pretty, oh, that's a different story
if she is pretty, oh, that's a different story
antidonjuan
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yea, hb 7 is what i look for as good friends, set ur expectations high like 8.5-10 for gaming, just don't treat the 6-7s too poorly and just be friends
a hb 7 for a friend maybe, def should not be a target
a hb 7 for a friend maybe, def should not be a target
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.