"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Cutting text threads and re-engaging several days later?

Knight of Roses

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We all know the case: We set up a date or are in the midst of setting up a date but the girl wishes to continue text chit chat. Some of you may enjoy this, I personally don't. So what do I do?

I engage in a few text exchanges, then send out: "Let's catch up later in the week on the phone. Enjoy rest of your evening". Several days later, send a phone call, have a short conversation 15 minutes, build rapport and tell her you're going to text several days afterwards.

Rinse and repeat. I find this method effective at maintaining interests before you have a chance to schedule dates. (I travel frequently for work and so I can't always meet a new plate within the same week).

Anyone else agree or have similar experience? Any critics or suggestions?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Your rule has to be any bytch who doesn't get with your program gets dropped. That's it.

You can't be scared to lose a bytch like most betas. My rule is I try to get women to meet up. If she gives me some bullshyt about wanting to talk more or get to know me better I put her on ice for two weeks. No contact. Then I try again. If the bytch still doesn't want to meet she gets dropped.

You guys stress over these hoes way more than you need to.
 

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Your rule has to be any bytch who doesn't get with your program gets dropped. That's it.

You can't be scared to lose a bytch like most betas. My rule is I try to get women to meet up. If she gives me some bullshyt about wanting to talk more or get to know me better I put her on ice for two weeks. No contact. Then I try again. If the bytch still doesn't want to meet she gets dropped.

You guys stress over these hoes way more than you need to.
I use a similar "get with the program" method. BUT I do it after I had already slept with them twice. I learned that women will sleep with you really fast if you make them feel like you're gonna stick around after (even if you don't).


As for the op

The trick that I use to get around all of this is to set up dates on the same day I ask them or the next.
I learn their schedule and when I KNOW they're free I just tell them I wanna see them for like five minutes.
 

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Your rule has to be any bytch who doesn't get with your program gets dropped. That's it.

You can't be scared to lose a bytch like most betas. My rule is I try to get women to meet up. If she gives me some bullshyt about wanting to talk more or get to know me better I put her on ice for two weeks. No contact. Then I try again. If the bytch still doesn't want to meet she gets dropped.

You guys stress over these hoes way more than you need to.
Seems a little too ruthless no? Why would you lose potential plates when you can maintain them with some gentleness and charm?
 
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Seems a little too ruthless no? Why would you lose potential plates when you can maintain them with some gentleness and charm?
Charm trumps 'get with the program bit*h' yeah.

The whole my bit*h/my ho thing is personally a turn off for me and women who seem to have some value but I'm sure it works fine on hood rats and the like.

So yes, charm, I can see that opening way more 'doors' ;)
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Seems a little too ruthless no? Why would you lose potential plates when you can maintain them with some gentleness and charm?
Because I'm not afraid to lose a bytch. There are plenty who will get with my program.

Lose the scarcity mindset.
 

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Because I'm not afraid to lose a bytch. There are plenty who will get with my program.

Lose the scarcity mindset.
Just out of curiosity, how many plates are you spinning simultaneously and how much are you qualifying these women?
 

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Bit of both for me. They all seem to expect a few texts at least nowadays in the age of entitlement. Not best part of my games so try keep it minimal.

But it's no guarantee. I remember this cute market stall holder I got a number for. We texted and there was a phone call and it was just a daytime coffee. I was a bit keener than usual because she was a green eyed Persian girl and I haven't had one of those. Then she flakes and she sends me this wall of text excuse about how it was telling that we didn't spend the week getting to know each. So obviously a huge PITA thank god I didn't waste more of my week getting to know her.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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