Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Crying and what i should do

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One of the girls i'm after is a grade below, and she and a bunch of the girls in the grade are really close to their one teacher, who was diagnosed with cancer in her throat, likely to die D: I had the teacher too.
A lot of the girls were crying today, and it was just overall a really uncomfortable situation for me and everyone else. Not necessarily for the point of picking her up or a
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nything, but like i wasn't really sure how to handle the crying. I didn't try and comfort her really, but i didn't ignore her either. I didn't make any effor tto talk to her though after she had stopped crying. I just talked about happy things and non-related stuff with my friends and she kind of just came into the conversation.
She also just sent me a text that said "heyy thanks for trying to make me feel better today" (but i didn't?) and i don't really have an idea what to say.
I like the girl but mainly i don't want to step on any of her toes by a wrong response. I didn't reply to the text, but i'm not sure that was the best idea either. At the same time, any text i think of sending back seems stupid to send.
I wanted to hang out with her over the weekend but ii'm thinking i should just wait a little and let this cool down?

Help?
Thanks.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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PeeGee

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I wouldn't worry about the text -- you received the text and you can respond with actions and spoken words rather than texting back.

My suggestion is to reframe her negative emotions into positive energy. Suggest that she and her classmates who were upset that day work together to make an appreciation card or gift for that teacher, blah blah

I wouldn't play up this angle too much it's much too easy to get friendzoned, but for sure escalate and try to do something with this girl if you are interested.
 

Analyzeit

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I hate saying this because i don't know i feel it's morally wrong.

But anyway, Try keep away from her for awhile without making it look like you aren't because it's just really easy to get friend zoned when girls are in that kind of mood just really easy and it's better to not be friendzoned in the first place then trying to get out of it.

Don't worry about the txt, probably would of been better if you said something back but oh well might not have been.
 

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u couldve just txt'd her back with "np" then another txt sayin fo example "me n a couple friends r chillin somewhere u shud come"...then u'd act like the nice guy n run some game on her but dnt fall into the friend zone.

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"Nothing is easy to the Unwilling"
 

Five To One

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***If you do get stuck with a girl who is crying(and you will at some point in your life) kiss her shoulder(if your sitting), head, or forehead and bring her in close to your shoulder so she can rest her head. It eliminates the awkwardness of having a crying girl that you have to look at and comes off as very smooth.


But yeah try to stay away when a girl is in a bad mood, or she may connect those bad feelings with your presence.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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