"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Crying and what i should do

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One of the girls i'm after is a grade below, and she and a bunch of the girls in the grade are really close to their one teacher, who was diagnosed with cancer in her throat, likely to die D: I had the teacher too.
A lot of the girls were crying today, and it was just overall a really uncomfortable situation for me and everyone else. Not necessarily for the point of picking her up or a
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nything, but like i wasn't really sure how to handle the crying. I didn't try and comfort her really, but i didn't ignore her either. I didn't make any effor tto talk to her though after she had stopped crying. I just talked about happy things and non-related stuff with my friends and she kind of just came into the conversation.
She also just sent me a text that said "heyy thanks for trying to make me feel better today" (but i didn't?) and i don't really have an idea what to say.
I like the girl but mainly i don't want to step on any of her toes by a wrong response. I didn't reply to the text, but i'm not sure that was the best idea either. At the same time, any text i think of sending back seems stupid to send.
I wanted to hang out with her over the weekend but ii'm thinking i should just wait a little and let this cool down?

Help?
Thanks.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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PeeGee

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I wouldn't worry about the text -- you received the text and you can respond with actions and spoken words rather than texting back.

My suggestion is to reframe her negative emotions into positive energy. Suggest that she and her classmates who were upset that day work together to make an appreciation card or gift for that teacher, blah blah

I wouldn't play up this angle too much it's much too easy to get friendzoned, but for sure escalate and try to do something with this girl if you are interested.
 

Analyzeit

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I hate saying this because i don't know i feel it's morally wrong.

But anyway, Try keep away from her for awhile without making it look like you aren't because it's just really easy to get friend zoned when girls are in that kind of mood just really easy and it's better to not be friendzoned in the first place then trying to get out of it.

Don't worry about the txt, probably would of been better if you said something back but oh well might not have been.
 

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u couldve just txt'd her back with "np" then another txt sayin fo example "me n a couple friends r chillin somewhere u shud come"...then u'd act like the nice guy n run some game on her but dnt fall into the friend zone.

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"Nothing is easy to the Unwilling"
 

Five To One

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***If you do get stuck with a girl who is crying(and you will at some point in your life) kiss her shoulder(if your sitting), head, or forehead and bring her in close to your shoulder so she can rest her head. It eliminates the awkwardness of having a crying girl that you have to look at and comes off as very smooth.


But yeah try to stay away when a girl is in a bad mood, or she may connect those bad feelings with your presence.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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