"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Crying and what i should do

saturos

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One of the girls i'm after is a grade below, and she and a bunch of the girls in the grade are really close to their one teacher, who was diagnosed with cancer in her throat, likely to die D: I had the teacher too.
A lot of the girls were crying today, and it was just overall a really uncomfortable situation for me and everyone else. Not necessarily for the point of picking her up or a
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nything, but like i wasn't really sure how to handle the crying. I didn't try and comfort her really, but i didn't ignore her either. I didn't make any effor tto talk to her though after she had stopped crying. I just talked about happy things and non-related stuff with my friends and she kind of just came into the conversation.
She also just sent me a text that said "heyy thanks for trying to make me feel better today" (but i didn't?) and i don't really have an idea what to say.
I like the girl but mainly i don't want to step on any of her toes by a wrong response. I didn't reply to the text, but i'm not sure that was the best idea either. At the same time, any text i think of sending back seems stupid to send.
I wanted to hang out with her over the weekend but ii'm thinking i should just wait a little and let this cool down?

Help?
Thanks.
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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PeeGee

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I wouldn't worry about the text -- you received the text and you can respond with actions and spoken words rather than texting back.

My suggestion is to reframe her negative emotions into positive energy. Suggest that she and her classmates who were upset that day work together to make an appreciation card or gift for that teacher, blah blah

I wouldn't play up this angle too much it's much too easy to get friendzoned, but for sure escalate and try to do something with this girl if you are interested.
 

Analyzeit

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I hate saying this because i don't know i feel it's morally wrong.

But anyway, Try keep away from her for awhile without making it look like you aren't because it's just really easy to get friend zoned when girls are in that kind of mood just really easy and it's better to not be friendzoned in the first place then trying to get out of it.

Don't worry about the txt, probably would of been better if you said something back but oh well might not have been.
 

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u couldve just txt'd her back with "np" then another txt sayin fo example "me n a couple friends r chillin somewhere u shud come"...then u'd act like the nice guy n run some game on her but dnt fall into the friend zone.

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Five To One

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***If you do get stuck with a girl who is crying(and you will at some point in your life) kiss her shoulder(if your sitting), head, or forehead and bring her in close to your shoulder so she can rest her head. It eliminates the awkwardness of having a crying girl that you have to look at and comes off as very smooth.


But yeah try to stay away when a girl is in a bad mood, or she may connect those bad feelings with your presence.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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