"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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dave007

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age: 17
height:176 cm,5'9
weight: 69kgs
I don't have an access to a gym..
I am at a beginner's level currently:
monday,wednesday, friday, sunday[30 minutes each day):3sets pushups(as many as I can do in one go with 60sec break between each set)
3 sets crunches
3 lunges(with 2 five gallon pails)
tuesday, thursday,saturday:cardios(biking or sprints)[30 minures

Target:build lean muscle mass, stronger arms,butt and reduce facial fat
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Warboss Alex

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find a gym. you are limited here in what you can achieve and gains will be marginal
 

BluEyes

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Target:build lean muscle mass, stronger arms,butt and reduce facial fat
You build lean muscle mass through progressive resistance. Pushups are great but it's not easy to progressively add more weight to your push up.

Stronger arms will come when you build your main muscle groups(legs, chest, back, post. chain)

You'll get a stronger butt by doing squats, lunges, and stiff-leg deadlifts. The way you do lunges now is fine, but you have to figure out a way to add more weight each time.

You can only reduce facial fat when your total body fat lowers. I'm guessing you are over 16% bf, if you want to define your face you should be at <12% bf. You weigh ~152lbs, so you should aim to be losing roughly 5-10lbs of fat. However I'd focus first on gaining 5-10lbs of muscle than losing the fat. Chances are you'll lose it by simply gaining that muscle mass over a few months.

Your muscle gains will be determined by whether you get your ass into the gym. Also, by your diet.

Why do you work out on sunday?
 

EFFORT

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BluEyes said:
Why do you work out on sunday?
I workout on sunday thanks to ironaddict (Wesley)
 
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