Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yes because Effort and WBA don't have a clue about writing routines...Mad Manic said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
If their routines were so amazing you wouldn't be plateauing on half your lifts mate. When a routine is too low in volume, the muscles aren't battered enough so that they come back considerably stronger the week after. That's essentially why volume exists, otherwise we cud just do 1 rep maxes. As for that routine, leg day looks ok but the push and pull days aren't too good. No Flat BB Bench, no dips, need both rows and chins, good mornings not needed, more bicep and tricep work and more sets in general.Quagmire911 said:Yes because Effort and WBA don't have a clue about writing routines...
You live in f***** koo koo land.
Quagmire
I ain't even going to bother arguing. People can do whatever they want.Mad Manic said:
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Back and knees feel fine this morning. I'll probably stick with the deadlifts.Quagmire911 said:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.