Cringe Lunch or personal Social Experiment?

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Mike32ct

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The key is to get rid of all possible envy of other guys.

Worrying about who might have hooked with up with whom is not a rabbit hole you want to go down.

I don’t care if they bang in the next cubicle lol. You still stay completely chill and enjoy your lunch.

I know you said you are mostly over your crush, and that’s good. Just mentioning this as a reminder.
 

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The key is to get rid of all possible envy of other guys.

Worrying about who might have hooked with up with whom is not a rabbit hole you want to go down.

I don’t care if they bang in the next cubicle lol. You still stay completely chill and enjoy your lunch.

I know you said you are mostly over your crush, and that’s good. Just mentioning this as a reminder.
That is a bit of a tall order with me. When I say I"m "(mostly) over my crush", it means I'm not in contact with her. There might be some residuals, which means, if she's in the same room there is some effect. However, if I think she and gay-Tyrone/lite hooked-up, then that would help me not to take her seriously enough to even want to sit three seats away from her, and might even look down on her, and delete the last youtube playlist that is reserved for that occasion. It's not enough to "mostly" be over a crush, just as much as a partial eclipse is not a total eclipse. That 1% makes a difference. I found that out the hard way with the last Great (North) American Eclipse.

That being said, how did you get rid of envy of other guys. You don't sound like you are a prolific womanizer that has plenty of options. I'm listening to how you get rid of envies from other guys? This is something that plauges all around. Sometimes its helpful because I find envy helps me make sales. It is like I have to compensate by making more sales.
 

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Anyway, one good thing is I do have some consistent rules. When I did see her the past few times, there were only two seats before the end of the row, so I was not "triggered" to sit three seats away from her, since there there has not been an orientation where there has been a three seat space. It's usually two seats before the end of the row, or before another person is occupying a third chair. If this continues, and lets say such an orientation of "three seats" does not happen by July 15th, and I don't see these two characters together, then I'll just delete the playlist then and delete the last remaining youtube playlist concerning that. There, problem solved. It's God's way of saying "something happened", and you have to move on for sanity sake.
 

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That is a bit of a tall order with me. When I say I"m "(mostly) over my crush", it means I'm not in contact with her. There might be some residuals, which means, if she's in the same room there is some effect. However, if I think she and gay-Tyrone/lite hooked-up, then that would help me not to take her seriously enough to even want to sit three seats away from her, and might even look down on her, and delete the last youtube playlist that is reserved for that occasion. It's not enough to "mostly" be over a crush, just as much as a partial eclipse is not a total eclipse. That 1% makes a difference. I found that out the hard way with the last Great (North) American Eclipse.

That being said, how did you get rid of envy of other guys. You don't sound like you are a prolific womanizer that has plenty of options. I'm listening to how you get rid of envies from other guys? This is something that plauges all around. Sometimes its helpful because I find envy helps me make sales. It is like I have to compensate by making more sales.
It's simple. You focus on what you can control and what you can control is the way you look, the kind of shape you are in, the type of food that you eat, how much sleep you get, your hygiene, etc etc etc.

Any of that other stuff is not within your control so what good is worrying about it going to do?
 

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That is a bit of a tall order with me. When I say I"m "(mostly) over my crush", it means I'm not in contact with her. There might be some residuals, which means, if she's in the same room there is some effect. However, if I think she and gay-Tyrone/lite hooked-up, then that would help me not to take her seriously enough to even want to sit three seats away from her, and might even look down on her, and delete the last youtube playlist that is reserved for that occasion. It's not enough to "mostly" be over a crush, just as much as a partial eclipse is not a total eclipse. That 1% makes a difference. I found that out the hard way with the last Great (North) American Eclipse.

That being said, how did you get rid of envy of other guys. You don't sound like you are a prolific womanizer that has plenty of options. I'm listening to how you get rid of envies from other guys? This is something that plauges all around. Sometimes its helpful because I find envy helps me make sales. It is like I have to compensate by making more sales.
I got burned really badly from a chick that friendzoned me and started “dating” (ie screwing) her neighbor. Took me about a year to get over it. But once it was over, envy disappeared for good. I will never, ever let myself fall into that trap again.

I’m not a sales person so I can’t give you advice there. If envy helps you there, feel free to keep it.
 

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I got burned really badly from a chick that friendzoned me and started “dating” (ie screwing) her neighbor. Took me about a year to get over it. But once it was over, envy disappeared for good. I will never, ever let myself fall into that trap again.

I’m not a sales person so I can’t give you advice there. If envy helps you there, feel free to keep it.
Thanks for sharing this with me. I'm not "friendzoned" by this lady so I don't have the painful issue of having a real connection with her and then worrying that she's sleeping with another guy. Therefore, if she did hypothetically sleep with the other guy, the real issue is just a faster deletion of a reserved playlist rather than mental anguish for one year.

It's more of a character issue on her end, because she's a manager there (ie someone who is in charge of a different division), and claimed she was seeing someone for a year, which would make her a cheat that doesn't care or is not discreet with who she is even cheating with. It wouldn't be a type of woman you would take seriously at that point.

There is just a parasocial connection at this point. Much like if you like some lady on youtube, but found out something that put you off about her, and decided to unsubscribe from her. You are not going to take allot of time to get over her. I mean, if I befriended an escort with an OF handle, and liked talking to that escort, and eventually unsubscribed from her, then why would some lady at the office with one other guy bother me compared to that? I thought I was innoculatd by talking to that escort from "envy from other guys". If I really had that problem then I wouldn't have even subscribed or talked to any escort in the past because they are, after all, dealing with other guys. Yet, if a civvie does that with ONE other guy that's going to somehow bother me? I don't get it.
 

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Have seen this lady in the environment a few times, and the other "gay"-Tyrone/lite a few times, but they were not together.

@Hamurabimbi when you had sexual encounters in your office, did your co-workers you were intimate with behave differently towards you afterwards, and started avoiding you?
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No.
 
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And given that you're a man over the age of 25, it'd be wise to stop writing and speaking in a fashion reminiscent of Alicia Silverstone in Clueless
I liked how she'd stomp around pouting in her little boots.
 
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I tend to have good relations with most of the women I’ve been with. I’m a nice guy.
I'd say, 'well-endowed', sounds way better than the bland 'nice'.
 

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Both me and that lady happened to go down the same elevator together. We did not talk to each other.

I've noticed that she is not making excuses to stay away from me. She was walking with another lady that walked down the stairs, but I was standing next to the elevator and, if someone wanted to avoid me they would have walked down the stairs too and stay away from me. We ended up going in the same elevator together. It went down one floor. I walked ahead, but not too fast, but enough to hold the door open for her on the way out. She didn't say anything. Mentally, it was a big deal that I was alone in an elevator with that girl. It means she trusts me enough to be in such a close physical space with her.

Also most women in the cafteria tend to stay away or leave the area if I'm watching a movie on my Tablet and am on a relaxed seating position (ie especially if I have popcorn). If she is there and it's just me in the cafeteria she is also not leaving either (even though a signficant space apart).

Anyway, still not talking to this girl though because that would mean I'm being social if I do that, and we all know I suck in that department, so why bother. It is better to do pushups instead. Did I mention I did 30 pushups today?
 

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The fact that she followed me has made me feel like a man, like a leader, that she has to follow me. I lead, she follows. End of story. Raw and visceral. I opened the door for her because she is a woman and no other reason. I don't care about her response back since I did that because I wanted to do that as a reward for following that closely behind, he he. Who cares if we didn't talk to each other. She was right where I wanted her to be. Behind me.
 

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That being said, how did you get rid of envy of other guys.
I think you have to carve out your own niche for yourself, you have to find your own successes that you can point to, and be secure in.
There's also a thought exercise: Decide what kind of man you want to be, then be that guy.
 
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I never see other men as competitors.
 

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"We all lie to ourselves in order to feel happy"

Joey Pants; Memento
In what way am I lying to myself? I never said she's interested in me. We haven't had any interaction in over a month anyway. There is nothing material other than the fact that, in that moment, she was behind me, but not at a distance enough to not hold the door open. (ie usually if someone is further back, I will just proceed and not open the door) If I want to interpret that she's captivated by my masculine aura and can't help but follow me that closely, then it's fair game for me to interpret her behaviour that way. At least it sounds more confident than most of the pathetic negative drivel I post on here. Just like, if someone's a$$ on a train is so close to my crotch I can't see my feet, like on the other thread, it's fair game for me to interpret that "something is up" here too, even if there is not.

Some people will interpret someone who has blocked them as "playing hard to get". Trust me, I'm not that far gone.

I haven't seen that movie fully yet (Ie Momento), but it's on my watchlist.

But I digress...back to the regularly scheduled negative incel-like posts.
 

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Per your request, I checked out your thread. Here's what I have to add:

Pursuing a woman at work is risky.

Back in 2021, I flirted with a new girl at work (even though I generally make it a rule to refrain from flirting at work, I was mesmerized by her excellent backside).

Long story short, the new girl acted mildly receptive at first, yet we eventually had a falling out (and ended up hating each other). For the rest of the time she worked here, I was terrified she'd rat me out to HR. I was relieved when she left the company a few months later.

As for the woman from your OP, I'm still not clear if she's a coworker or if she works for a different company in your office building?
 
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