"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Crazy Exes

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imaluvnit

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I will be brief, long story short I have two exes, one ex wife and one ex girfriend. The ex wife has cused me some problems but nothing like the ex girlfriend. My ex girlfriend of 1 yr relationship, and have not been together for 3 months has decided along with my ex wife to destroy my new relationship with my new girlfriend.

Things she has done are, sent an email to my current boss and told him that I had plans to hurt him physically, sent horrible scathing emails to my daughter in law, my sons. my father and worst of all to my current girlfriend and her daughter. Needless to say a lot of hate seeds have been planted in my girl friends head. She is really on the fence about our relationship. I was wondering if anyone has had a really crazy, mental ex that has caused them this many problems. I really would like to keep this relationship but was wondering if I should just call it quits, there is no way I can defend myself about all the horrible stuff that has been made up about me. I'm thinking of throwing the towel in just to save face. By the way I did get a restraining order agaist the ex girl friend. Any advice is welcome. Thanks
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Atom Smasher

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There has to be more to this story than meets the eye. Why are they going after you so aggressively? Why do they feel they haver a score to settle with you?
 
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Atom Smasher said:
There has to be more to this story than meets the eye. Why are they going after you so aggressively? Why do they feel they haver a score to settle with you?
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Not always the case. I've learnt the hard way that women do not deal well with rejection. In any case, it's odd and perhaps there is more to this story, but that's not what he is asking. Honestly, it is quite simple. If she is ruining his life and he has a restraining order, he should go to the police.
 
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