"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Craigslist: Yay or nay???

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had some success,well,some responses. Overall,what's everyone's take on it?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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If you're looking for a hooker or a low-life wh*re, it's probably the right place.
 
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mikeyb said:
If you're looking for a hooker or a low-life wh*re, it's probably the right place.

Correct... I responded to an add on Craigslist in my hometown and This sweetest add I read from a girl who is 25 years old.

It went something like this.. "25 year old sweetheart recently over a relationship and looking for a friend to do things with. I'm blond, curvy, and I don't bite, I like to laugh, so I hope you do too. Don't even ask me about sex yet! :) You will not get a response if that is what you want.... Lets get together."

That was not exactly how it went, but she sounded like such a nice, sweet person.

I was Sooooo wrong... She sent me some pictures after she saw mine(she would only show herself after she saw mine) that was a good sign she was "normal" Yeah, lol... Ok so I get these pictures along with a message like " I like your pictures and I hope you like mine as well. You're very handsome, and not like the usual guys I am with(I look like Doogie Houser M.D.) so I'm like wow! this awesome chick thinks I'm good looking!...

I was so happy and couldn't wait to look at her pics... I was expecting the hometown type girl, and a girl that was "normal" and cute as a button, but....
I opened the pictures, and OMG.... My heart stopped beating, I had to turn away for a second, A TON of disapointment overcame me...it really sucked nuts.

The pictures were of a skanky hoe dressed in this underpants close to being a thong, but not quite.. some stupid blue sparkly bra thingy.. and she was posing this with her ass in the air, holding her tits ect ect...

She was nort 25...more like 35, but a hagged out 35 year old.. I could see in her face that she had a hard life, and I even believe she was a real hoe that worked the streets.
She probably thought she could make a few bucks from a geek like me, and that's probably why she responded to me....pffftttt She was just a hoe trying to make money from geeky guys that used Craigslist to get laid.

You'd be very lucky to find anyone on there that is decent.. I advise staying away from it..
 

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yea all the girls on CL are either hookers or spammers that want your e-mail. only desperate women with problems post on there.
 

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GET OUT! Go! Get out of your house.

Go get involved. Go mingle in clubs and bars. Go to church. Go to the gym. REGULARLY!

You need to expand. Expand your circles. You can't get what you're looking for on the internet.

No more posts, dude. Read the Don Juan Bible, 5 star posts in the tips section, download self-help material. Read, study, and GET OUT. You can get way more in one or two days of GETTING OUT than you'll ever get here. You learn mostly from experience.

If you don't want to get out, then there is a reason, and I think it's because you're scared. Are you scared? Scared of what? Judgment, rejection, or failure? Then you're looking at the negative side of getting out.

Look at the positive side of what getting out can do for you. New friends, girls, things to do, having a fulfilled life.

Just get out, dude. Expand!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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There is absolutely nothing wrong with Craigs list or meeting women online. In fact I condone it.

As long as you get the #, get the date, and get her interested, who the **** cares how it's done?

If I can use the internet to pick up women without showering and drinking a six pack with a beard on no sleep, it's OK in my book.
 
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My Name is Nobody said:
There is absolutely nothing wrong with Craigs list or meeting women online. In fact I condone it.

As long as you get the #, get the date, and get her interested, who the **** cares how it's done?

If I can use the internet to pick up women without showering and drinking a six pack with a beard on no sleep, it's OK in my book.
I'm sure there are some genuine, nice girls on CraigsList, but My expierience says to stay away... Most of them are looking for a quick F*ck...that's it.
 

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this kinda reminds me when my homie met some girl on myspace, and she turned out to be ugly as f*ck, because her pics were either photoshopped, or they made her look good from certain angles...
 
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EricInTheHouse said:
I'm sure there are some genuine, nice girls on CraigsList, but My expierience says to stay away... Most of them are looking for a quick F*ck...that's it.

I have never had any luck with replying to a womans ad on Craiglist. I'll get a few replies but they always flake.

However, I am having luck with posting my own ad on craigslist, and I am talking to a girl who looks pretty hot and she replied to my ad. That makes me the prize right off the bat.

This just proves what I have been saying the last few days, make them chase you, turn the woman into the AFC, and it's gravy.
 
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Gamble said:
this kinda reminds me when my homie met some girl on myspace, and she turned out to be ugly as f*ck, because her pics were either photoshopped, or they made her look good from certain angles...
Yep, happens all the time like that and truthfully(for me) online woman hunting sucks.. First you can't even see them for real until you get to be good friends with her, emails, IM, ect ect.... Checking email all the frickin tiime... Then, still, you don't know how she really is or looks until you meet for real then you get disapointed... Online is fantasy....anyone can be anybody and even for people that don't lie or act strange, they can still get cought up in the online fantasy anyways.

IMO online dating sucks(it's not for me).... I'd rather scope out some cute girls at the races, or around my area.. At least then you know who and what they look like and no surprises.

I do admit that whoever is succsessful in an online relationship, are truly brave, and they have my respect.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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EricInTheHouse said:
Yep, happens all the time like that and truthfully(for me) online woman hunting sucks.. First you can't even see them for real until you get to be good friends with her, emails, IM, ect ect.... Checking email all the frickin tiime... Then, still, you don't know how she really is or looks until you meet for real then you get disapointed... Online is fantasy....anyone can be anybody and even for people that don't lie or act strange, they can still get cought up in the online fantasy anyways.

IMO online dating sucks(it's not for me).... I'd rather scope out some cute girls at the races, or around my area.. At least then you know who and what they look like and no surprises.

I do admit that whoever is succsessful in an online relationship, are truly brave, and they have my respect.

Everyone has those experiences. So you meet some girl who had a face shot and she turned out to be a tranny or a football player. So what?

Lesson learned! Be more careful next time, don't just swear it off. I have had horrible experiences with online dating and great experiences.

I am more than willing to take the bad to get to the good.

My only tip is don't ever go AFC or needy.. like "checking your email all the time", as you just said.

Maybe that's why you are failing?
 
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My Name is Nobody said:
Everyone has those experiences. So you meet some girl who had a face shot and she turned out to be a tranny or a football player. So what?

Lesson learned! Be more careful next time, don't just swear it off. I have had horrible experiences with online dating and great experiences.

I am more than willing to take the bad to get to the good.

My only tip is don't ever go AFC or needy.. like "checking your email all the time", as you just said.

Maybe that's why you are failing?
Nah, I just prefer not to get involved online anymore.... I make WAY to much commitment to an online relationship only to be disapointed or not even being able to meet at all. It's just to much of a pain for me.

Since I got brave enough to actually ask a girl out that is in my hometown, it's been great and I won't have it any other way now. I just wish I had done it a lot sooner.
 

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There's a right and a wrong way to do anything. Posting or responding to the ads, especially anything hinting at sex, is the wrong way.

The right way to use craigslist to meet women is to use everything but the personals. The rants and raves section is golden, especially if you can write well and tell a good story. If you post a rant, the key is to not rant, but rather be funny and make your reader laugh, too. If you read a chick's rant and she pokes fun at something, send her a message laughing at the same thing. Then from the beginning, you are a fun and entertaining guy, not some creepy loser from the Internet personals. After an email or two, ask for pics or a myspace link. Work the numbers, do it right, and you can get women this way. Any medium of communication can get you women - or it can be a complete wast of time. There are plenty of convicts in jail who have women marrying them and staying faithful to them, because some cons are that much of a dj, even when locked up with only access to a pen and paper as communication. Part of the reason they don't let prisoners on the Internet is that a lot of them are cassanovas and would have ten women mailing them money and wanting to marry them. They wish they had what you have. You can use the Internet the right way, which is to work at not coming off as just another creepy desperate loser, and actually get women, or you can do what most guys do and fail miserably as just another afc.
 
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EricInTheHouse said:
. I make WAY to much commitment to an online relationship only to be disapointed or not even being able to meet at all. It's just to much of a pain for me.

HUH why are you getting emotional? I just think of it as fun. It's entertainment, and if it works out, awesome! Keep your emotions out of online dating man.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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So far in the last six months or so here in Minnesota a woman has gotten killed by a guy who was advertising for a nanny on Craigslist; several people had been robbed by a man and a woman when they had invited each over for "a date" via Craiglist and just recently several men and women have had their identities stolen after meeting a couple off of Craiglist. Could it be Craigslist or is it just Minnesotans being gullible? I tend to believe that DonGordon's view is a happy medium. :D
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
So far in the last six months or so here in Minnesota a woman has gotten killed by a guy who was advertising for a nanny on Craigslist; several people had been robbed by a man and a woman when they had invited each over for "a date" via Craiglist and just recently several men and women have had their identities stolen after meeting a couple off of Craiglist. Could it be Craigslist or is it just Minnesotans being gullible? I tend to believe that DonGordon's view is a happy medium. :D
Yeh that stuff can happen any where but craigslist is definitely the slum of the internet..
 
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HUH why are you getting emotional? I just think of it as fun. It's entertainment, and if it works out, awesome! Keep your emotions out of online dating man.
It's a long story, and I was once attracted to a girl via internet that I would never be able to meet or go any further with. It ended with disaster, and left me in a depressive state, because my life was lonely as it was before I met her.

Nah.. I keep from getting attached on the internet now... I explain this to any girl I talk to on the internet , and they totally get it. With them knowing that, we just become friends... In fact I'm meeting my friend Christine from Toronto in June:up: She is older than me, but very attractive blond. We're going to meet half way and go on a ghost walking tour..

Just as friends, but if things click....well..... maybe just maybe....it could be more.. That will be furthest from my mind though, I can guarantee that.
 

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Be very careful when taking advice. Some people are oblivious.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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