Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
mikeyb said:If you're looking for a hooker or a low-life wh*re, it's probably the right place.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I'm sure there are some genuine, nice girls on CraigsList, but My expierience says to stay away... Most of them are looking for a quick F*ck...that's it.My Name is Nobody said:There is absolutely nothing wrong with Craigs list or meeting women online. In fact I condone it.
As long as you get the #, get the date, and get her interested, who the **** cares how it's done?
If I can use the internet to pick up women without showering and drinking a six pack with a beard on no sleep, it's OK in my book.
EricInTheHouse said:I'm sure there are some genuine, nice girls on CraigsList, but My expierience says to stay away... Most of them are looking for a quick F*ck...that's it.
Yep, happens all the time like that and truthfully(for me) online woman hunting sucks.. First you can't even see them for real until you get to be good friends with her, emails, IM, ect ect.... Checking email all the frickin tiime... Then, still, you don't know how she really is or looks until you meet for real then you get disapointed... Online is fantasy....anyone can be anybody and even for people that don't lie or act strange, they can still get cought up in the online fantasy anyways.Gamble said:this kinda reminds me when my homie met some girl on myspace, and she turned out to be ugly as f*ck, because her pics were either photoshopped, or they made her look good from certain angles...
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
EricInTheHouse said:Yep, happens all the time like that and truthfully(for me) online woman hunting sucks.. First you can't even see them for real until you get to be good friends with her, emails, IM, ect ect.... Checking email all the frickin tiime... Then, still, you don't know how she really is or looks until you meet for real then you get disapointed... Online is fantasy....anyone can be anybody and even for people that don't lie or act strange, they can still get cought up in the online fantasy anyways.
IMO online dating sucks(it's not for me).... I'd rather scope out some cute girls at the races, or around my area.. At least then you know who and what they look like and no surprises.
I do admit that whoever is succsessful in an online relationship, are truly brave, and they have my respect.
Nah, I just prefer not to get involved online anymore.... I make WAY to much commitment to an online relationship only to be disapointed or not even being able to meet at all. It's just to much of a pain for me.My Name is Nobody said:Everyone has those experiences. So you meet some girl who had a face shot and she turned out to be a tranny or a football player. So what?
Lesson learned! Be more careful next time, don't just swear it off. I have had horrible experiences with online dating and great experiences.
I am more than willing to take the bad to get to the good.
My only tip is don't ever go AFC or needy.. like "checking your email all the time", as you just said.
Maybe that's why you are failing?
EricInTheHouse said:. I make WAY to much commitment to an online relationship only to be disapointed or not even being able to meet at all. It's just to much of a pain for me.
Yeh craigslist is the personals choice for the dregs of humanity...LOLmikeyb said:If you're looking for a hooker or a low-life wh*re, it's probably the right place.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Yeh that stuff can happen any where but craigslist is definitely the slum of the internet..Francisco d'Anconia said:So far in the last six months or so here in Minnesota a woman has gotten killed by a guy who was advertising for a nanny on Craigslist; several people had been robbed by a man and a woman when they had invited each over for "a date" via Craiglist and just recently several men and women have had their identities stolen after meeting a couple off of Craiglist. Could it be Craigslist or is it just Minnesotans being gullible? I tend to believe that DonGordon's view is a happy medium.![]()
It's a long story, and I was once attracted to a girl via internet that I would never be able to meet or go any further with. It ended with disaster, and left me in a depressive state, because my life was lonely as it was before I met her.My Name is Nobody said:HUH why are you getting emotional? I just think of it as fun. It's entertainment, and if it works out, awesome! Keep your emotions out of online dating man.
^^Thats advice you should take...Mavrick said:Be very careful when taking advice. Some people are oblivious.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.