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Master Don Juan
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- Nov 19, 2009
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what you think?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Check your PMGaucho said:Blake Griffin and Chris Paul, damn, I'm looking forward to seeing that!
Now that would be a good move for the Lakers, Deron and Dwight, two guys with pure quality!The Experience said:It's weird seeing all these new players on the mavs. Individually they are all good players so well see how well they play together as a team as time goes on. Being a mavs but also a lakers fan, I really wanted to see cp3 and Dwight Howard play together although I still think Howard will be on the lakers soon and I heard that since Lopez is out in new jersey (or brooklyn) that gasol could be traded for deron Williams..
But anyways cp3 with billups and griffin will make for an exciting game each time.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Both the mavs and Chandler wanted to stay together buy they want different ends. The mavs offered a 1 year 20 mil contract knowing that they would need cap space at the end of the year for the next new star the mavs are searching for. And for Chandler the price was good but he wanted more security such as a four or five year deal with the same team.Gaucho said:Now that would be a good move for the Lakers, Deron and Dwight, two guys with pure quality!
WTF did the Mavs get rid of Chandler for?