guys, situation is: hot co-worker, 10 years younger than me, when I speak she hangs off my words but seems to be shy, so she doesn't take a lot of initiative but laughs at my jokes. I know she has a boyfriend but not sure how strong that relationship is (he seems to be rich). I'm keen to investigate more but there's no comfort yet when we talk, I can't understand whether I've got a chance or not. I haven't asked her out yet but she usually attends business events and seems to be happy to spend a lot of time with me. I know someone will say "don't **** where you eat", it's fine but am not risking anything. Not sure whether to ask her out for a 1-2-1 or arrange something with other colleagues and isolate to see what happens. Any suggestion on how to proceed?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
coworker, how to proceed?
- Thread starter joker79
- Start date
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Greasy Pig
Master Don Juan
All the 13 co-workers I fvcked over the years happened after nights out on the booze.
I just had an uncanny knack of building flirtatious tension at work and then going balls deep when they're alcohol intake caused them to act on their desires.
I never set up a formal date, I just planted seeds by day and then made sure I was around when the booze was flowing.
It's not advisable to dip your pen in the company ink but I guess I was just very lucky not to suffer any serious blowback in my dalliances.
I just had an uncanny knack of building flirtatious tension at work and then going balls deep when they're alcohol intake caused them to act on their desires.
I never set up a formal date, I just planted seeds by day and then made sure I was around when the booze was flowing.
It's not advisable to dip your pen in the company ink but I guess I was just very lucky not to suffer any serious blowback in my dalliances.