guys, situation is: hot co-worker, 10 years younger than me, when I speak she hangs off my words but seems to be shy, so she doesn't take a lot of initiative but laughs at my jokes. I know she has a boyfriend but not sure how strong that relationship is (he seems to be rich). I'm keen to investigate more but there's no comfort yet when we talk, I can't understand whether I've got a chance or not. I haven't asked her out yet but she usually attends business events and seems to be happy to spend a lot of time with me. I know someone will say "don't **** where you eat", it's fine but am not risking anything. Not sure whether to ask her out for a 1-2-1 or arrange something with other colleagues and isolate to see what happens. Any suggestion on how to proceed?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
coworker, how to proceed?
- Thread starter joker79
- Start date
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Greasy Pig
Master Don Juan
All the 13 co-workers I fvcked over the years happened after nights out on the booze.
I just had an uncanny knack of building flirtatious tension at work and then going balls deep when they're alcohol intake caused them to act on their desires.
I never set up a formal date, I just planted seeds by day and then made sure I was around when the booze was flowing.
It's not advisable to dip your pen in the company ink but I guess I was just very lucky not to suffer any serious blowback in my dalliances.
I just had an uncanny knack of building flirtatious tension at work and then going balls deep when they're alcohol intake caused them to act on their desires.
I never set up a formal date, I just planted seeds by day and then made sure I was around when the booze was flowing.
It's not advisable to dip your pen in the company ink but I guess I was just very lucky not to suffer any serious blowback in my dalliances.