guys, situation is: hot co-worker, 10 years younger than me, when I speak she hangs off my words but seems to be shy, so she doesn't take a lot of initiative but laughs at my jokes. I know she has a boyfriend but not sure how strong that relationship is (he seems to be rich). I'm keen to investigate more but there's no comfort yet when we talk, I can't understand whether I've got a chance or not. I haven't asked her out yet but she usually attends business events and seems to be happy to spend a lot of time with me. I know someone will say "don't **** where you eat", it's fine but am not risking anything. Not sure whether to ask her out for a 1-2-1 or arrange something with other colleagues and isolate to see what happens. Any suggestion on how to proceed?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
coworker, how to proceed?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Greasy Pig
Master Don Juan
All the 13 co-workers I fvcked over the years happened after nights out on the booze.
I just had an uncanny knack of building flirtatious tension at work and then going balls deep when they're alcohol intake caused them to act on their desires.
I never set up a formal date, I just planted seeds by day and then made sure I was around when the booze was flowing.
It's not advisable to dip your pen in the company ink but I guess I was just very lucky not to suffer any serious blowback in my dalliances.
I just had an uncanny knack of building flirtatious tension at work and then going balls deep when they're alcohol intake caused them to act on their desires.
I never set up a formal date, I just planted seeds by day and then made sure I was around when the booze was flowing.
It's not advisable to dip your pen in the company ink but I guess I was just very lucky not to suffer any serious blowback in my dalliances.