Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Couples who share the housework are more likely to divorce
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Agreed, the man that does the housework gives a subtle message to his woman that he is not man enough to make her do it, which plays on her subconscious, making her less attracted to him. Now with that said, he should be "manning up" and taking care of paying the bills and doing the taxes, etc., taking care of the yard, disposing the trash, maintaining the auto fleet, etc., which should be about the same amount of time & effort that the little lady should be doing in her domestic duties of cooking & cleaning.PeakIV said:
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It's more likely to be correlation than causation.
A woman who will look at you after dinner and say, "It's your turn to do the dishes," is the same type of woman who will be more likely to file for divorce. I think it's a sense of entitlement that is the culprit. A woman who demands that housework be divided exactly evenly has a very idealized concept of marriage in the first place. There's likely a lot of other unrealistic fairly tale conceptions about marriage in her head, and no mortal husband is going to be able to fulfill them all.
A woman who will look at you after dinner and say, "It's your turn to do the dishes," is the same type of woman who will be more likely to file for divorce. I think it's a sense of entitlement that is the culprit. A woman who demands that housework be divided exactly evenly has a very idealized concept of marriage in the first place. There's likely a lot of other unrealistic fairly tale conceptions about marriage in her head, and no mortal husband is going to be able to fulfill them all.
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interesting that this lady came to approx the same realization about 5 years ago:
http://www.violentacres.com/archives/88/a-peaceful-marriage-is-not-always-5050/
http://www.violentacres.com/archives/88/a-peaceful-marriage-is-not-always-5050/
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
This is why our forefathers had the wisdom to regard women as property of men
women are forever idiots and morons....they remain mental 12 year olds their whole lives.
women have neither the capacity nor intellect to lead effectively...they must be trained and treated like obedient dogs....trained to serve men and to live for men in every capacity....only in this way can society flourish.
the fact that men even LISTEN TO WOMEN in any capacity as equals is a profound and horrific mistake.
women's lives are solely to bear children and to serve the men who protect and provide for them...that has been their role for 2 million years and it is their rightful role today....the modern faggot male has forgotten this profound truth.
women are forever idiots and morons....they remain mental 12 year olds their whole lives.
women have neither the capacity nor intellect to lead effectively...they must be trained and treated like obedient dogs....trained to serve men and to live for men in every capacity....only in this way can society flourish.
the fact that men even LISTEN TO WOMEN in any capacity as equals is a profound and horrific mistake.
women's lives are solely to bear children and to serve the men who protect and provide for them...that has been their role for 2 million years and it is their rightful role today....the modern faggot male has forgotten this profound truth.
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All the men I knew which shared the house duties with their wives were leftist, acceptful of feminism and more than willing to fight(verbally) for anyones right except for theirs.
They were the same kind of men who would reproach you to dare to say that in your own home you have no right to use lethal force to an intruder under any condition.
Being unable to be the man in their own home is not the disease for such men, it's simply a symptom of a bigger cancer.
Being unmanly was just a face of the problem, they simply fail to follow the lines that nature draw for them.
They are more interested into being accepted and complimented on their moral than increse their condition and seize wealth and prosperity.
I have much more respect for a red neck with a 20 IQ who in his corner lives according to mature nature and logic than one of those "progressist men" who challenge common sense and nature anywhere except their job.
Strangely those same men tend to do good in their job and have a cultural and intellectual level above the average.
I guess the problem is that they fit too much into modern society and are the ones who are brainwhased the most.
They were the same kind of men who would reproach you to dare to say that in your own home you have no right to use lethal force to an intruder under any condition.
Being unable to be the man in their own home is not the disease for such men, it's simply a symptom of a bigger cancer.
Being unmanly was just a face of the problem, they simply fail to follow the lines that nature draw for them.
They are more interested into being accepted and complimented on their moral than increse their condition and seize wealth and prosperity.
I have much more respect for a red neck with a 20 IQ who in his corner lives according to mature nature and logic than one of those "progressist men" who challenge common sense and nature anywhere except their job.
Strangely those same men tend to do good in their job and have a cultural and intellectual level above the average.
I guess the problem is that they fit too much into modern society and are the ones who are brainwhased the most.
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I'm a little surprised by the results of this study actually. I wouldn't think running a vacuum across the floor once in a while would cause your wife to lose attraction for you.
I wonder if the results are somewhat skewed by stay at home housewives? Obviously they should do the housekeeping chores and may lack the financial means to divorce so readily.
I also wonder if it might indicate that the male is not keeping up his more traditional maintenance-type duties around the house. When you consider the male is responsible for such things (like auto care, lawn care, replacing windows, etc), he shouldn't really need to engage in half the housework. If he does, it may show a willingness to be hen pecked instead of sticking up for himself.
I wonder if the results are somewhat skewed by stay at home housewives? Obviously they should do the housekeeping chores and may lack the financial means to divorce so readily.
I also wonder if it might indicate that the male is not keeping up his more traditional maintenance-type duties around the house. When you consider the male is responsible for such things (like auto care, lawn care, replacing windows, etc), he shouldn't really need to engage in half the housework. If he does, it may show a willingness to be hen pecked instead of sticking up for himself.
If this takes place in Norway I wonder if it's skewed since a good portion of the marriages where housework is not equally shared are Islamic and Eastern European homes which have lower divorce rates for reasons other than housework.
I don't know if the guys in here have ever lived with a wife or long term but I have with both several times and I've found that the cleaner I am around the house the more I get laid. So I look at this like I do all sociological studies. With a grain of easily wiped up salt.
I don't know if the guys in here have ever lived with a wife or long term but I have with both several times and I've found that the cleaner I am around the house the more I get laid. So I look at this like I do all sociological studies. With a grain of easily wiped up salt.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.