"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Couples who share the housework are more likely to divorce
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Agreed, the man that does the housework gives a subtle message to his woman that he is not man enough to make her do it, which plays on her subconscious, making her less attracted to him. Now with that said, he should be "manning up" and taking care of paying the bills and doing the taxes, etc., taking care of the yard, disposing the trash, maintaining the auto fleet, etc., which should be about the same amount of time & effort that the little lady should be doing in her domestic duties of cooking & cleaning.PeakIV said:
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It's more likely to be correlation than causation.
A woman who will look at you after dinner and say, "It's your turn to do the dishes," is the same type of woman who will be more likely to file for divorce. I think it's a sense of entitlement that is the culprit. A woman who demands that housework be divided exactly evenly has a very idealized concept of marriage in the first place. There's likely a lot of other unrealistic fairly tale conceptions about marriage in her head, and no mortal husband is going to be able to fulfill them all.
A woman who will look at you after dinner and say, "It's your turn to do the dishes," is the same type of woman who will be more likely to file for divorce. I think it's a sense of entitlement that is the culprit. A woman who demands that housework be divided exactly evenly has a very idealized concept of marriage in the first place. There's likely a lot of other unrealistic fairly tale conceptions about marriage in her head, and no mortal husband is going to be able to fulfill them all.
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interesting that this lady came to approx the same realization about 5 years ago:
http://www.violentacres.com/archives/88/a-peaceful-marriage-is-not-always-5050/
http://www.violentacres.com/archives/88/a-peaceful-marriage-is-not-always-5050/
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
This is why our forefathers had the wisdom to regard women as property of men
women are forever idiots and morons....they remain mental 12 year olds their whole lives.
women have neither the capacity nor intellect to lead effectively...they must be trained and treated like obedient dogs....trained to serve men and to live for men in every capacity....only in this way can society flourish.
the fact that men even LISTEN TO WOMEN in any capacity as equals is a profound and horrific mistake.
women's lives are solely to bear children and to serve the men who protect and provide for them...that has been their role for 2 million years and it is their rightful role today....the modern faggot male has forgotten this profound truth.
women are forever idiots and morons....they remain mental 12 year olds their whole lives.
women have neither the capacity nor intellect to lead effectively...they must be trained and treated like obedient dogs....trained to serve men and to live for men in every capacity....only in this way can society flourish.
the fact that men even LISTEN TO WOMEN in any capacity as equals is a profound and horrific mistake.
women's lives are solely to bear children and to serve the men who protect and provide for them...that has been their role for 2 million years and it is their rightful role today....the modern faggot male has forgotten this profound truth.
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All the men I knew which shared the house duties with their wives were leftist, acceptful of feminism and more than willing to fight(verbally) for anyones right except for theirs.
They were the same kind of men who would reproach you to dare to say that in your own home you have no right to use lethal force to an intruder under any condition.
Being unable to be the man in their own home is not the disease for such men, it's simply a symptom of a bigger cancer.
Being unmanly was just a face of the problem, they simply fail to follow the lines that nature draw for them.
They are more interested into being accepted and complimented on their moral than increse their condition and seize wealth and prosperity.
I have much more respect for a red neck with a 20 IQ who in his corner lives according to mature nature and logic than one of those "progressist men" who challenge common sense and nature anywhere except their job.
Strangely those same men tend to do good in their job and have a cultural and intellectual level above the average.
I guess the problem is that they fit too much into modern society and are the ones who are brainwhased the most.
They were the same kind of men who would reproach you to dare to say that in your own home you have no right to use lethal force to an intruder under any condition.
Being unable to be the man in their own home is not the disease for such men, it's simply a symptom of a bigger cancer.
Being unmanly was just a face of the problem, they simply fail to follow the lines that nature draw for them.
They are more interested into being accepted and complimented on their moral than increse their condition and seize wealth and prosperity.
I have much more respect for a red neck with a 20 IQ who in his corner lives according to mature nature and logic than one of those "progressist men" who challenge common sense and nature anywhere except their job.
Strangely those same men tend to do good in their job and have a cultural and intellectual level above the average.
I guess the problem is that they fit too much into modern society and are the ones who are brainwhased the most.
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I'm a little surprised by the results of this study actually. I wouldn't think running a vacuum across the floor once in a while would cause your wife to lose attraction for you.
I wonder if the results are somewhat skewed by stay at home housewives? Obviously they should do the housekeeping chores and may lack the financial means to divorce so readily.
I also wonder if it might indicate that the male is not keeping up his more traditional maintenance-type duties around the house. When you consider the male is responsible for such things (like auto care, lawn care, replacing windows, etc), he shouldn't really need to engage in half the housework. If he does, it may show a willingness to be hen pecked instead of sticking up for himself.
I wonder if the results are somewhat skewed by stay at home housewives? Obviously they should do the housekeeping chores and may lack the financial means to divorce so readily.
I also wonder if it might indicate that the male is not keeping up his more traditional maintenance-type duties around the house. When you consider the male is responsible for such things (like auto care, lawn care, replacing windows, etc), he shouldn't really need to engage in half the housework. If he does, it may show a willingness to be hen pecked instead of sticking up for himself.
If this takes place in Norway I wonder if it's skewed since a good portion of the marriages where housework is not equally shared are Islamic and Eastern European homes which have lower divorce rates for reasons other than housework.
I don't know if the guys in here have ever lived with a wife or long term but I have with both several times and I've found that the cleaner I am around the house the more I get laid. So I look at this like I do all sociological studies. With a grain of easily wiped up salt.
I don't know if the guys in here have ever lived with a wife or long term but I have with both several times and I've found that the cleaner I am around the house the more I get laid. So I look at this like I do all sociological studies. With a grain of easily wiped up salt.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.