"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Cottonsuave

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I decided to join and start my own journal for accountability. This is not gonna be your normal journal as its only gonna start off with small goals and progressively work my way up. I'm hopin I can bring some knowledge to the forum and maybe inspire others to do a journal also.
Goals for 9/28/2011
  • Drink 1 gallon of water, No more grains (trying to eat Paleo)
    Say Hi to 10 hotties (little female experience, DJ bootcamp format)
    Finish Paper for Sociology (Sophomore in community college)
    Go back to my kickboxing class
    Read 1/4 of my book (The Power of Now)
Im, gonna write these in my school planner so I can look at them throughout the day. I figure going at a slow pace and building up on workload would make stickin to this alot easer. Can't make a lifestyle change overnight. Feel free to critique my goals/give tips. Wish me luck and see you tonight
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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finish paper + kickbox + reading book = a day well spent
 

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Damn, yesterday was not so good.
Only drank three forths of the gallon
Didnt finish the paper (Need help from teacher)
Went to Kickboxing ++++
Didn't read (Too tired when I get home)
Only said Hey to 1 hot female (Damn I got no confidence)

Yeah crappy day yesterday so I'm doin everything in my power to try these goals again.
 

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I really like this stuff, great way to change for the better, and may even try it myself.
I wish you loads of luck and strength, may you conquer them all. :D
 

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I was feelin fairly euphoric today, maybe its the ADHD meds. still can't drink a damn gallon of water(only got 3/4 lol), finished my paper though :woo:. Didnt say hi to ten hotties because I felt like gettin some numbers. Went three for three number closing (Two classmate girls, one cold library approach). Makes me realize that this info on here is useful, but nowhere near as rewarding as real world application. It was almost surreal (never gotten three numbers in the same day, never had the motivation or balls to try) and I really wanted to fail to see if it was really me inside my body. I would post the interactions but what I said sounded so stupid when I typed it out (It worked for me though :)).

If I could give my first tip it has to be to get a online journal (its a damn good motivator)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Been taking it easy this weekend. Went to my first University football game in a while with dad. Really rewarding experience. Been textin girls alot this weekend but not really set up any dates. Here are some goals for this upcoming week.

  • Make some new friends. (I need some new networking connections)
    Workout 3 times this week. (YES!!, Im loving training again)
    5 phone numbers (one for each workday)
    Sign up for lumosity. (Just done my free trial, talk about a brain workout)
    Finish current book and half of new book. (gonna check out "On The Road" by Jack Kerouc
    Detail and tune up the car
    Visit my Grandpa at least once (He's old and enjoys anybodys company)
Sorry if there isn't enough action in my journal. Gettin girls is a big reason for this journal but my main focus for a few weeks is to get my life in order (Try to update myself and everything about me) Thanks for reading
 

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I'll be following this young grasshopper, may the spirit and force of the field reporters before you guide you in the way of the Jedi (DJ)

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Got a quick question. What do you do when you have friends that comment on your physical imperfections. Its happened a bunch but I just brush it off. Like deep down I just wanna call em out (my head's saying smack him, he won't say it again). But I feel that just shows my insecurity and lack of control. How do you guys handle this situation.
 

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Cottonsuave said:
Got a quick question. What do you do when you have friends that comment on your physical imperfections. Its happened a bunch but I just brush it off. Like deep down I just wanna call em out (my head's saying smack him, he won't say it again). But I feel that just shows my insecurity and lack of control. How do you guys handle this situation.
My friends make fun of the fact that I'm big all the time, what I do is make fun of them for being small or skinny, you just either ignore it or make fun of them getting angry is what they deep down may want. It sucks trust me espeically if your an easy target (I hang out with guys who are all ripped or in decent shape I'm the fattie now out the clique)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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