"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Coping with my own stupidity

evoke

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When will I learn?

This hor who I was LJBFed by months ago calls me up to go out drinking tonight (short backstory, I burned the bridge between us a half dozen times, yet she keeps coming back, only to taunt me over and over). I reluctantly agree.

I eventually pop up. She's talking to some dude. I get over it and wander off on my own, only for her to find a a table close to me, to further bury those nails by talking to him right there in front of me. ****ing guy gives her a hug and leaves. She comes over and sits down next to me (only she's got two other male companions sitting across from me, joy!). Before I can even get in a word some other dude shows up, and her attention of fully on him. The only time she even acknowledges me is when he goes to get another drink. I told her that I regret showing up. She give me some line about how she wasn't expecting these people to show up. Yawn.

At some point she and her new long haired male friend get up and go outside. Her other friends look at each other and go "Oooo... sucky sucky $5!". I finally take this as my cue to **** off and go somewhere happier, to drink myself into oblivion and chat with fat chicks...

How could I be so stupid as to fall into this trap? The whole night I was texting this other girl (to rate her on some 1-10 scale would be an utter insult) who kept telling me to get the **** out of there, as soon as possible. Why couldn't I listen to her sooner?

It's not like I need her. Girls fight over me. Yet this stupid, overweight ***** and her sagging tits hold some power over me. WTF gives?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Inquire

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ouch tat sucks, maybe u think tat somethang movie style will happen wit u guys? get out of tat!
 

Hound_of_Love

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Ask yourself some questions fella:

1) Why do you want her?
2) What is the likelihood of you ever being happy in the long-term with her?
3) Can you do better?
4) Does she have any redeeming features at all? From where I'm sitting she doesn't appear to...

Then, when you've realised how truly worthless this girl is in your world, ditch her. Don't try to be friends - she has no worth as a friend - all she is is a drain on your time and emotional energy...just walk away and don't look back.
 

Bible_Belt

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The girl is a ho for attention. She probably has low self-esteem or other issues that you don't want to deal with anyway.
 
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