mahon83050
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Any takers on this one. Basically, a nice urban setting (where one can walk to places) and where seems to be alot of young people.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Originally posted by mahon83050
Any takers on this one. Basically, a nice urban setting (where one can walk to places) and where seems to be alot of young people.
Harlem, give me a break. I am white, have NO desire to live in Harlem and would not be welcome either.Originally posted by LowPlainsDrifter
Actually, Harlem is becoming very upscale and a move-to destation for young people.
Brooklyn is going in that direction, too.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Harlem, give me a break. I am white, have NO desire to live in Harlem and would not be welcome either.
That is because I am from the Southern part of NJ and never ventured off into NYC often.Originally posted by Prophett
It's surprising, you living in the tristate area and having about as much knowledge of NYC as some denizen of middle america or even worse a down-south hick. You need to get your facts straight bro...
r u one of those white people that thinks every black person hates them?Originally posted by mahon83050
Harlem, give me a break. I am white, have NO desire to live in Harlem and would not be welcome either.
Parts of Brooklyn are cool, as well as Queens. Manhattan is too expensive and chaotic.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
No.Originally posted by DJ_in_making
r u one of those white people that thinks every black person hates them?people these days.......
When I take the train into NYC, I see a lot of upscale looking apartments near the 125th st station that weren't there before.Originally posted by mahon83050
Harlem, give me a break. I am white, have NO desire to live in Harlem and would not be welcome either.
Parts of Brooklyn are cool, as well as Queens. Manhattan is too expensive and chaotic.