cyberlady
Don Juan
This is a difficult question: do you prefer cool girls od hot women?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Cool Or Hot?
- Thread starter cyberlady
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
i give a slight edge to coolness over looks... i'll be the first to admit i often go for looks... but the lady i'm really trying for now.. thats pretty much based on personality.. her looks are alright, but her personality has me hooked
lets not jinx things though
lets not jinx things though
cyberlady
Don Juan
Looks
You said yourself that her looks is allright. It is allright to try for a lady whose looks is allright even if it is pretty much based on personality.tsmith2334 said:
Gustav Yavo
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Of course it is, if a guy is looking for a long term kinda girl and is not just looking to fool around, alot of guys are willing to sacrafice some of the looks for a good personality. ultimitaly a guy wants to find a girl with both, the looks and personality.
Just like tsmith said, im also going out with a girl who has me hooked on her personality. Luckily shes got the looks too, but im willing to say that even if her looks faded a bit, id still be willing to go out with her cause her personality.
Just like tsmith said, im also going out with a girl who has me hooked on her personality. Luckily shes got the looks too, but im willing to say that even if her looks faded a bit, id still be willing to go out with her cause her personality.
CORVETTE06
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hot women cuz all girls act the same - they turn into b*tches after you get to know them
i once sacraficed looks for personality. dated her for two years and she was mean and did ****ed up things. she used to be the coolest/nicest girl when i first met her. when i saw how she transformed, i dumped her. now the way i see it is that i might as well get a hot girl who is a b-tch than an ugly one.
i once sacraficed looks for personality. dated her for two years and she was mean and did ****ed up things. she used to be the coolest/nicest girl when i first met her. when i saw how she transformed, i dumped her. now the way i see it is that i might as well get a hot girl who is a b-tch than an ugly one.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
cyberlady
Don Juan
Gustav Yavo said:
Luckily she got the looks. Puting personality before looks is really a sacrafice. She would be mean to you and never will treat you the way you deserve because she is the one who does not deserve you.CORVETTE06 said:
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Women Should Be Banned From This Site - You Are A Useless Peice Of ****
cyberlady
Don Juan
You Are A Useless Peice Of ****:box:AFC Savior said:
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
like i said, even though personality is the deciding factor, i'd like her to look good too, she has to be presentable atleast (so... a 6 i guess?)
my standards might not be so high if i didn't think i was good looking enough and deserved someone who is equally attractive (or close). there needs to be some sort of mutual attraction. personality will seal the deal/ keep me interested however
my standards might not be so high if i didn't think i was good looking enough and deserved someone who is equally attractive (or close). there needs to be some sort of mutual attraction. personality will seal the deal/ keep me interested however
cyberlady
Don Juan
You are right tsmith2334 to look for somebody good looking enough and equally attractive (or close) to yourself. That is what mating is all about. A dog would mate a ***** and a cat a female from its own kind. They would not mate to each other but look for individuals from theri own kind. The same goes to people. Everybody wants somebody alike himself. If he is pretty he would appreciate looks, if he is rich he would put money over everything else.tsmith2334 said:
Personality will seal the deal/ keep you interested however.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
ah ha yea thankscyberlady said:You are right tsmith2334 to look for somebody good looking enough and equally attractive (or close) to yourself. That is what mating is all about. A dog would mate a ***** and a cat a female from its own kind. They would not mate to each other but look for individuals from theri own kind. The same goes to people. Everybody wants somebody alike himself. If he is pretty he would appreciate looks, if he is rich he would put money over everything else.
Personality will seal the deal/ keep you interested however.
see i know the right things to say, i got the right attitude and i know what to do (my advice on this site is usually pretty helpful), i just gotta get better at living it myself
cyberlady
Don Juan
So, are you in a relationship or maybe married?tsmith2334 said:ah ha yea thanks
see i know the right things to say, i got the right attitude and i know what to do (my advice on this site is usually pretty helpful), i just gotta get better at living it myself
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
Ahaha, no...cyberlady said:So, are you in a relationship or maybe married?
I have the look and the sense to do it, I just gotta get my skills up to par and take some risks
cyberlady
Don Juan
Me neither. See, I know the right things to say, I got the right attitude and I know what to do, but I just got to get better at living it myself. I am single for long time and I am desperate but I will not settle for anything less. I will not go out every evening with a different guy not worth my shoes and suck his di*k in his old car.tsmith2334 said: