cyberlady
Don Juan
This is a difficult question: do you prefer cool girls od hot women?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You said yourself that her looks is allright. It is allright to try for a lady whose looks is allright even if it is pretty much based on personality.tsmith2334 said:... but the lady i'm really trying for now.. thats pretty much based on personality.. her looks are alright, but her personality has me hooked
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Gustav Yavo said:Just like tsmith said, im also going out with a girl who has me hooked on her personality. Luckily shes got the looks too, but im willing to say that even if her looks faded a bit, id still be willing to go out with her cause her personality.
Luckily she got the looks. Puting personality before looks is really a sacrafice. She would be mean to you and never will treat you the way you deserve because she is the one who does not deserve you.CORVETTE06 said:i once sacraficed looks for personality. dated her for two years and she was mean and did ****ed up things. she used to be the coolest/nicest girl when i first met her. when i saw how she transformed, i dumped her. now the way i see it is that i might as well get a hot girl who is a b-tch than an ugly one.
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You are right tsmith2334 to look for somebody good looking enough and equally attractive (or close) to yourself. That is what mating is all about. A dog would mate a ***** and a cat a female from its own kind. They would not mate to each other but look for individuals from theri own kind. The same goes to people. Everybody wants somebody alike himself. If he is pretty he would appreciate looks, if he is rich he would put money over everything else.tsmith2334 said:like i said, even though personality is the deciding factor, i'd like her to look good too, she has to be presentable atleast (so... a 6 i guess?)
my standards might not be so high if i didn't think i was good looking enough and deserved someone who is equally attractive (or close). there needs to be some sort of mutual attraction. personality will seal the deal/ keep me interested however
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
ah ha yea thankscyberlady said:You are right tsmith2334 to look for somebody good looking enough and equally attractive (or close) to yourself. That is what mating is all about. A dog would mate a ***** and a cat a female from its own kind. They would not mate to each other but look for individuals from theri own kind. The same goes to people. Everybody wants somebody alike himself. If he is pretty he would appreciate looks, if he is rich he would put money over everything else.
Personality will seal the deal/ keep you interested however.![]()
So, are you in a relationship or maybe married?tsmith2334 said:ah ha yea thanks
see i know the right things to say, i got the right attitude and i know what to do (my advice on this site is usually pretty helpful), i just gotta get better at living it myself
Ahaha, no...cyberlady said:So, are you in a relationship or maybe married?![]()
Me neither. See, I know the right things to say, I got the right attitude and I know what to do, but I just got to get better at living it myself. I am single for long time and I am desperate but I will not settle for anything less. I will not go out every evening with a different guy not worth my shoes and suck his di*k in his old car.tsmith2334 said:Ahaha, no...
I have the look and the sense to do it, I just gotta get my skills up to par and take some risks