cyberlady
Don Juan
This is a difficult question: do you prefer cool girls od hot women?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Cool Or Hot?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
i give a slight edge to coolness over looks... i'll be the first to admit i often go for looks... but the lady i'm really trying for now.. thats pretty much based on personality.. her looks are alright, but her personality has me hooked
lets not jinx things though
lets not jinx things though
cyberlady
Don Juan
Looks
You said yourself that her looks is allright. It is allright to try for a lady whose looks is allright even if it is pretty much based on personality.tsmith2334 said:
Gustav Yavo
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Of course it is, if a guy is looking for a long term kinda girl and is not just looking to fool around, alot of guys are willing to sacrafice some of the looks for a good personality. ultimitaly a guy wants to find a girl with both, the looks and personality.
Just like tsmith said, im also going out with a girl who has me hooked on her personality. Luckily shes got the looks too, but im willing to say that even if her looks faded a bit, id still be willing to go out with her cause her personality.
Just like tsmith said, im also going out with a girl who has me hooked on her personality. Luckily shes got the looks too, but im willing to say that even if her looks faded a bit, id still be willing to go out with her cause her personality.
CORVETTE06
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hot women cuz all girls act the same - they turn into b*tches after you get to know them
i once sacraficed looks for personality. dated her for two years and she was mean and did ****ed up things. she used to be the coolest/nicest girl when i first met her. when i saw how she transformed, i dumped her. now the way i see it is that i might as well get a hot girl who is a b-tch than an ugly one.
i once sacraficed looks for personality. dated her for two years and she was mean and did ****ed up things. she used to be the coolest/nicest girl when i first met her. when i saw how she transformed, i dumped her. now the way i see it is that i might as well get a hot girl who is a b-tch than an ugly one.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
cyberlady
Don Juan
Gustav Yavo said:
Luckily she got the looks. Puting personality before looks is really a sacrafice. She would be mean to you and never will treat you the way you deserve because she is the one who does not deserve you.CORVETTE06 said:
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Women Should Be Banned From This Site - You Are A Useless Peice Of ****
cyberlady
Don Juan
You Are A Useless Peice Of ****:box:AFC Savior said:
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
like i said, even though personality is the deciding factor, i'd like her to look good too, she has to be presentable atleast (so... a 6 i guess?)
my standards might not be so high if i didn't think i was good looking enough and deserved someone who is equally attractive (or close). there needs to be some sort of mutual attraction. personality will seal the deal/ keep me interested however
my standards might not be so high if i didn't think i was good looking enough and deserved someone who is equally attractive (or close). there needs to be some sort of mutual attraction. personality will seal the deal/ keep me interested however
cyberlady
Don Juan
You are right tsmith2334 to look for somebody good looking enough and equally attractive (or close) to yourself. That is what mating is all about. A dog would mate a ***** and a cat a female from its own kind. They would not mate to each other but look for individuals from theri own kind. The same goes to people. Everybody wants somebody alike himself. If he is pretty he would appreciate looks, if he is rich he would put money over everything else.tsmith2334 said:
Personality will seal the deal/ keep you interested however.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
ah ha yea thankscyberlady said:You are right tsmith2334 to look for somebody good looking enough and equally attractive (or close) to yourself. That is what mating is all about. A dog would mate a ***** and a cat a female from its own kind. They would not mate to each other but look for individuals from theri own kind. The same goes to people. Everybody wants somebody alike himself. If he is pretty he would appreciate looks, if he is rich he would put money over everything else.
Personality will seal the deal/ keep you interested however.
see i know the right things to say, i got the right attitude and i know what to do (my advice on this site is usually pretty helpful), i just gotta get better at living it myself
cyberlady
Don Juan
So, are you in a relationship or maybe married?tsmith2334 said:ah ha yea thanks
see i know the right things to say, i got the right attitude and i know what to do (my advice on this site is usually pretty helpful), i just gotta get better at living it myself
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
Ahaha, no...cyberlady said:So, are you in a relationship or maybe married?
I have the look and the sense to do it, I just gotta get my skills up to par and take some risks
cyberlady
Don Juan
Me neither. See, I know the right things to say, I got the right attitude and I know what to do, but I just got to get better at living it myself. I am single for long time and I am desperate but I will not settle for anything less. I will not go out every evening with a different guy not worth my shoes and suck his di*k in his old car.tsmith2334 said: