navyseal2101
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Is cooking dinner for her AFCish or not. To me it seems like it is but idk.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Cooking Dinner
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I just moved into my new place and was considering inviting one of my girls over for dinner, but I was thinking more along the lines of the two of us cooking together. I think it could be a fun experience. You might consider doing this sometime.
aussiegoat55
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Have men been the cooks for the last two thousand years? No.navyseal2101 said:
Have men been wusses for the last two thousand years? No.
Notice that when men begin to take up cooking (role reversal), men also turn into wusses (role reversal). (This is not to say cooking makes you a wuss).
To quote Anti Dump: "Real men are not available. They're out there climbing mountains, swimming across rivers. What are you doing? Making spagetthi?"
Depends on your motives for cooking and from what position your coming from (man or metrosexual). If you're cooking to impress, forget it, that's AFC, seeking validation. If you're doing it because it's an anniversay, special day, or she is sick or tired then it would be a romantic gesture, no problem.
If you want her to come to your place, I recommend cooking together (like MrPimpin said), you can have a mini food fight, help out, set the table, kino, who knows, maybe dinner will end up on the floor
girl_in_a_boy_forum
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You should only cook dinner for your girl if:
a. it's your one year anniversary...or two year
b. she's very sick/she just made a huge accomplishment (college graduation, etc)/a close family member died and she's in mourning.
Cooking for her "just because" is AFCish.
Cooking something together, however, never goes out of style.
a. it's your one year anniversary...or two year
b. she's very sick/she just made a huge accomplishment (college graduation, etc)/a close family member died and she's in mourning.
Cooking for her "just because" is AFCish.
Cooking something together, however, never goes out of style.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Plec07
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Cook something with her, I've never failed with this. It sort of works as an action date and it's probably something she's not done often, if at all.
Michele l'Arcangelo
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negatorygirl_in_a_boy_forum said:
cooking is totally okay.
cooking "just because" is fine.
cooking to seek approval is not okay.
and
not cooking to seek approval is not okay.
what if you're a good cook? are you going to NOT cook for her because you want to look like a "DJ"? NO!
TRYING NOT to be an AFC does NOT make you a DJ.
but
DOING what YOU love to do without being bothered about other people's opinions DOES make you a DJ
write that down.
If you like to cook, then cook. If you suck at cooking, then don't cook.
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oh yeah and about the picture, it's a lil cloudy in my memory, but change it back the smoking hot one.