navyseal2101
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Is cooking dinner for her AFCish or not. To me it seems like it is but idk.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Cooking Dinner
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I just moved into my new place and was considering inviting one of my girls over for dinner, but I was thinking more along the lines of the two of us cooking together. I think it could be a fun experience. You might consider doing this sometime.
aussiegoat55
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Have men been the cooks for the last two thousand years? No.navyseal2101 said:
Have men been wusses for the last two thousand years? No.
Notice that when men begin to take up cooking (role reversal), men also turn into wusses (role reversal). (This is not to say cooking makes you a wuss).
To quote Anti Dump: "Real men are not available. They're out there climbing mountains, swimming across rivers. What are you doing? Making spagetthi?"
Depends on your motives for cooking and from what position your coming from (man or metrosexual). If you're cooking to impress, forget it, that's AFC, seeking validation. If you're doing it because it's an anniversay, special day, or she is sick or tired then it would be a romantic gesture, no problem.
If you want her to come to your place, I recommend cooking together (like MrPimpin said), you can have a mini food fight, help out, set the table, kino, who knows, maybe dinner will end up on the floor
girl_in_a_boy_forum
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You should only cook dinner for your girl if:
a. it's your one year anniversary...or two year
b. she's very sick/she just made a huge accomplishment (college graduation, etc)/a close family member died and she's in mourning.
Cooking for her "just because" is AFCish.
Cooking something together, however, never goes out of style.
a. it's your one year anniversary...or two year
b. she's very sick/she just made a huge accomplishment (college graduation, etc)/a close family member died and she's in mourning.
Cooking for her "just because" is AFCish.
Cooking something together, however, never goes out of style.
penkitten
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Plec07
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Cook something with her, I've never failed with this. It sort of works as an action date and it's probably something she's not done often, if at all.
Michele l'Arcangelo
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negatorygirl_in_a_boy_forum said:
cooking is totally okay.
cooking "just because" is fine.
cooking to seek approval is not okay.
and
not cooking to seek approval is not okay.
what if you're a good cook? are you going to NOT cook for her because you want to look like a "DJ"? NO!
TRYING NOT to be an AFC does NOT make you a DJ.
but
DOING what YOU love to do without being bothered about other people's opinions DOES make you a DJ
write that down.
If you like to cook, then cook. If you suck at cooking, then don't cook.
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oh yeah and about the picture, it's a lil cloudy in my memory, but change it back the smoking hot one.