navyseal2101
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Is cooking dinner for her AFCish or not. To me it seems like it is but idk.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Cooking Dinner
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I just moved into my new place and was considering inviting one of my girls over for dinner, but I was thinking more along the lines of the two of us cooking together. I think it could be a fun experience. You might consider doing this sometime.
aussiegoat55
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Have men been the cooks for the last two thousand years? No.navyseal2101 said:
Have men been wusses for the last two thousand years? No.
Notice that when men begin to take up cooking (role reversal), men also turn into wusses (role reversal). (This is not to say cooking makes you a wuss).
To quote Anti Dump: "Real men are not available. They're out there climbing mountains, swimming across rivers. What are you doing? Making spagetthi?"
Depends on your motives for cooking and from what position your coming from (man or metrosexual). If you're cooking to impress, forget it, that's AFC, seeking validation. If you're doing it because it's an anniversay, special day, or she is sick or tired then it would be a romantic gesture, no problem.
If you want her to come to your place, I recommend cooking together (like MrPimpin said), you can have a mini food fight, help out, set the table, kino, who knows, maybe dinner will end up on the floor
girl_in_a_boy_forum
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You should only cook dinner for your girl if:
a. it's your one year anniversary...or two year
b. she's very sick/she just made a huge accomplishment (college graduation, etc)/a close family member died and she's in mourning.
Cooking for her "just because" is AFCish.
Cooking something together, however, never goes out of style.
a. it's your one year anniversary...or two year
b. she's very sick/she just made a huge accomplishment (college graduation, etc)/a close family member died and she's in mourning.
Cooking for her "just because" is AFCish.
Cooking something together, however, never goes out of style.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Plec07
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Cook something with her, I've never failed with this. It sort of works as an action date and it's probably something she's not done often, if at all.
Michele l'Arcangelo
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negatorygirl_in_a_boy_forum said:
cooking is totally okay.
cooking "just because" is fine.
cooking to seek approval is not okay.
and
not cooking to seek approval is not okay.
what if you're a good cook? are you going to NOT cook for her because you want to look like a "DJ"? NO!
TRYING NOT to be an AFC does NOT make you a DJ.
but
DOING what YOU love to do without being bothered about other people's opinions DOES make you a DJ
write that down.
If you like to cook, then cook. If you suck at cooking, then don't cook.
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oh yeah and about the picture, it's a lil cloudy in my memory, but change it back the smoking hot one.