Converstation with people

[BlackDragon]

Im been reading the dj bible and started to become more social with other people. I never been much of a talker my whole life. When I talk with people, i start off the converstation by making a comment or asking a open ended question. Then they would do most of the talking, about 75% of the converstation. Is that ok? Should I try to talk more during the converstation?

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

It all depends on your personality realy. You got to progress as you wish and feel is good for you.... I tend to dominate any conversation and or socialevent such as a party or whatever but that's just because that is me and it's comfortable and natural for me....

One thing do, do not let people take control, in a conversation make sure you get to say what you want and make sure you aren't "overtalked" by others and stuff like that.

 

[BlackDragon]

Yeah, I do give my input into the converstations but I dont go into alot of details like others. Im thinking when I enlist in the Air Force i would be around a lot more people and my converstation skills would increase.

 

[Skel]

"Then they would do most of the talking, about 75% of the converstation. Is that ok? Should I try to talk more during the converstation?"

If you are referring to females then yes this is fine. I find that when I have nothing to talk about, ill ask them questions and they will do most of the talking.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Never think that a good conversationalist is someone that talks a lot. We all have probably met someone who had a lot to say about nothing and was intent on letting everyone know.

Think of it as being a music conductor. A conductor brings out the best in people by just engaging them. Although he says little, he is very engaging and there is a give and take between him and the orchestra.

Just keep asking open end questions and orchestrate great conversations. Some of the time you may give more, others less. Quantity doesn't count as much as quality and quality isn't measured by the amount of words used.

 

[ToP DoN]

pull outur di ck...it will be a great topic to talk about...