"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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BlackDragon

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Im been reading the dj bible and started to become more social with other people. I never been much of a talker my whole life. When I talk with people, i start off the converstation by making a comment or asking a open ended question. Then they would do most of the talking, about 75% of the converstation. Is that ok? Should I try to talk more during the converstation?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Kineti[C]harm

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It all depends on your personality realy. You got to progress as you wish and feel is good for you.... I tend to dominate any conversation and or socialevent such as a party or whatever but that's just because that is me and it's comfortable and natural for me....

One thing do, do not let people take control, in a conversation make sure you get to say what you want and make sure you aren't "overtalked" by others and stuff like that.
 
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Yeah, I do give my input into the converstations but I dont go into alot of details like others. Im thinking when I enlist in the Air Force i would be around a lot more people and my converstation skills would increase.
 
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"Then they would do most of the talking, about 75% of the converstation. Is that ok? Should I try to talk more during the converstation?"

If you are referring to females then yes this is fine. I find that when I have nothing to talk about, ill ask them questions and they will do most of the talking.
 
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Never think that a good conversationalist is someone that talks a lot. We all have probably met someone who had a lot to say about nothing and was intent on letting everyone know.

Think of it as being a music conductor. A conductor brings out the best in people by just engaging them. Although he says little, he is very engaging and there is a give and take between him and the orchestra.

Just keep asking open end questions and orchestrate great conversations. Some of the time you may give more, others less. Quantity doesn't count as much as quality and quality isn't measured by the amount of words used.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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