"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Brian McGee

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I completely agree with the fact that the subject of conversation should revolve around the woman during the first few encounters. However, as it stands, I've just entered an LTR (6 months) so I'm not as mysterious to her anymore (she still doesn't know too much though).

What my problem is, is that every single conversation we have is all about her, how she feels, etc etc. She does ask my opinion on most things, but at least 80% of the dialogue is about her. I do realise this is just a female trait, but it seems so vain and selfish.. I've called her out on it a few times and she's just oblivious to it 5 minutes later. I'm not sure if I should just cope with it or tell her to shut the **** up?

It's getting on my nerves.

(And no I'm not an emotionally needy person who needs to be asked how he feels at all :p I'm just getting peed off by the selfishness she's portraying - other than this, she's been going good so far).
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Obsidian

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if you don't like her, just dump her. She's probably not gonna change.

Just state your own opinions, tho, and let that be your input to the conversation. Why the hell do you care about talking about yourself, anyway? Let her jabber on. I personally don't even like talking about myself very much. Read How to Make Friends and Influence People and you will see that most people like to talk about themselves. Get used to it.
 

jigga23

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girls want a guy to just sit there and listen its just the way it is. they dont want a problem solver to their issues they want you to listen. better get used to it cause a lot of chicks are like that
 

I'm Joe Dirt

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I've been in an LTR nearly a year and a half and it seems like most of our conversations are about things that happen to both of us, things we are working on, or daily conversational issues like politics, the news, or intellectual discussion.

Sounds kinda plain and boring (but its really well balanced and fulfilling), but I guess the "get to know you" stage is long over and that's all you got left. I don't think either one of us talks bout "ourselves" anymore.
 

Brian McGee

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I don't think either one of us talks bout "ourselves" anymore.
She's still young (19) so she's in the stage of talking about how her friend said 'goodbye' in an odd tone so she must have a problem, how she had to deal with so much harrrrd work at the reception desk today :rolleyes:, how she thinks so and so off big brother is a so and so... These 'issues' come before everything else, even when I'm trying to watch football :eek:

I think I'm just at the age where I have no emotional needs, I don't want to listen to someone else's emotional needs, and all I care about is sex, comedy and my work/education. I'd dump her, but she's quite attractive and is still satisfying me in the sex department, even after 6 months of the same thing... but I think I'm just going to tell her to stop talking about herself as soon as I get sick of it each time (usually about 1 min into the convo) and if it leads to me dumping her then so be it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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